New Year for a New You: Day 3 #yby2018

This is day 3 of Lisa Jacobs Annual Review. You can find the details on her site, Marketing Creativity.

Intention-Setting 2017

What do you want from 2018? Consider the following five pillars of a harmonic life, as taught in Harmonic Wealth: The Secret of Attracting the Life You Want by James Arthur Ray.

Then, we’re going to apply each change/desire to the following list. I’ve gathered the questions below from MONEY Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom by Tony Robbins:

  1. What do I really want? (vision)
  2. What is important about it? (values)
  3. How will I get it? (methods)
  4. What is preventing me from having it? (obstacles)
  5. How will I know I am successful? (measurements)

Financial:

I want to establish an emergency savings account with at least 1 month’s living expenses and NOT touch it. I’d like to make $2000/month from Submissive Guide (before business expenses) so that I can apply the excess to improving the business, hiring more content creators and bettering our living situation.

What do I really want? (vision)

I want to not have to live paycheck to paycheck, especially since paychecks are not consistent and never on a schedule. I want to be able to relax when it comes to money and also, eventually, be able to handle emergencies like a vet bill, without juggling other bills.

What is important about it? (values)

I want to break free from the stress of never having enough.

How will I get it? (methods)

  1. Set aside a small percentage of every single paycheck in an account we can’t access easily.
  2. Make changes in our current budget that reflect a mindset of saving rather than spending.
  3. Work harder to find income funnels that work for Submissive Guide and also provide value to my readers so that they become loyal fans.

What is preventing me from having it? (obstacles)

A lack of discipline when it comes to money. Feeling starved for happiness and pleasure and seeking it in monetary gains instead of emotional, spiritual or social outlets. Stagnation with the business and not sure where to go from here.

How will I know I am successful? (measurements)

  • A full month’s bills accounted for in the emergency account.
  • $2K income tracked on the budget spreadsheet.
  • Peace of mind and relaxation when it comes to bills.

Spiritual:

I hope to find peace in my morning rituals and improve my self-care so that I can take care of my needs before anyone else. Live the saying, “take care of the property!” I’d also like to learn better stress management so that I don’t fall into a deep depression again and if I do feel down I know how to lift myself up quickly.

What do I really want? (vision)

I want to be happy, productive and fulfilled without needing anyone else to provide that for me.

What is important about it? (values)

It’s important because so much of my current life has been hectic and depressive. I want to take charge and love myself again.

How will I get it? (methods)

  1. Re-establish my morning routine using the Miracle Morning outline. Stick to it as often as possible until it becomes a habit.
  2. Take more regular showers. It really does show that I’ve been depressed when my physical care has become unimportant. Let’s step that up.
  3. Read and practice better stress management techniques so that I can be more prepared.

What is preventing me from having it? (obstacles)

Well, the largest thing is depression. As I climb out of that I’ll be able to really embrace the tasks that will make me happier and feel more fulfilled.

How will I know I am successful? (measurements)

I will track my attempts at Miracle Morning in my bullet journal.

Mental:

I am to continue learning and exploring submission and business skills to apply them to future successes. I’ll find better ways to create video content so that I am not always finding (and listening to) excuses not to record videos.

What do I really want? (vision)

I want, with some certainty, to know what I want from submission going forward. I’m tired of being uncertain and adrift. I also want to develop my video content to a higher standard so that people have another location for the informational content I provide.

What is important about it? (values)

It’s important because it not only improves my wellbeing but it will work to bring our business closer to success.

How will I get it? (methods)

  1. Make personal development and journaling a priority every single day.
  2. Schedule talks with KnyghtMare about where I stand in my re-focusing so he can provide support if I need it.
  3. Plan regular playtimes or D/s times to feel and explore submission in small doses to help me pinpoint what I do and don’t need.
  4. Record subguide videos on a schedule. Make it a business priority this year instead of written content.

What is preventing me from having it? (obstacles)

Depression is/was a huge hindrance, but as it subsides I feel I can work to reclaim my submission and figure out how it fits in the future. As I do so, I will continue to bring sucess to the business with a decent collection of video content.

How will I know I am successful? (measurements)

  • Increase my video count on YouTube by at least 30 videos.
  • Increase my YT subscribers. (Goal 8K+)
  • Be able to submit to KnyghtMare for short periods of time without falling back to negative and self-serving behaviors.

Relational:

I want to continue to show KnyghtMare that he’s important to me and express my love to him in as many ways as possible as frequently as I can. I want to find ways to play regularly. I hope to have regular date nights to keep the flame kindled and to develop a deeper intimacy with him.

What do I really want? (vision)

I  want to spark joy in your relationship and make our love a furnace, not a single flame. I hope to see our marriage as a strong connection with ourselves that we come back to, an anchor.

What is important about it? (values)

It’s important to me to have a relationship with a rock solid base and enjoying exploring that love through sex, play, and dating. Nurturing a marriage takes dedication and devotion; I am going to dial it up this year.

How will I get it? (methods)

  1. Set regular date nights at least monthly.
  2. Play dates weekly. These don’t have to be fancy, just setting up a time to express our BDSM and kink cravings with each other.
  3. Find special moments to demonstrate my love for him throughout the year.

What is preventing me from having it? (obstacles)

The meltdown at the beginning of 2017 left lasting obstacles that we have to continue to chip at. This year I want to brush them all away and find peace with the past – it will not rob me of a happy future with KnyghtMare.

How will I know I am successful? (measurements)

Our happiness will go up, we’ll enjoy spending time together more often and look forward to being sexy with each other. I also expect I’ll be with bruises and aches and pains a bit more frequently if this plan works. They’ll be happy bruises though!

Physical:

This is a big one. I want to find a healthy way to work out consistently that I enjoy and will make a difference in my weight loss. I will work to add my exercise routine to my morning ritual. I am also making a huge effort to reduce the amount of food I eat and then working in healthier choices for said foods. It will take time, but I can do it.

What do I really want? (vision)

I want to wear a size 14/16. I want to be able to talk long walks with my husband. I want to look in the mirror and be comfortable with the person staring back at me. I want to not worry about diabetes or dying young because I’m obese.

What is important about it? (values)

It’s important to me that I am attractive to my husband, that we can be active together and that I can wear sexy things. I get a lot of pleasure out of feeling sexy and attractive and it fuels a lot of other positive things in my life.

How will I get it? (methods)

  1. Shrinking my plate sizes, finding healthier alternates for the danger foods I tend to gravitate towards.
  2. Add exercise into my daily routine until I can do at least 30 mins each and every day.
  3. Reward progress with non-food rewards. Make-up, manicures, new hair color, new clothing item are all great suggestions.

What is preventing me from having it? (obstacles)

Comfort, in a nut-shell. I’ve always been fat. It’s hard to make the change to see being healthy as the direction I want to go. I’ve struggled with dieting and weight my entire life. If I don’t make the change now, I will die early. I don’t want that.

How will I know I am successful? (measurements)

Other than the normal scale and measuring tape going down, I am looking for a smile when I look in the mirror, fitting into tight spaces easier and less out of breath moments when I exert myself.

–lunaKM

About lunaKM

I’m a full-time submissive in a D/s relationship. I am webslut to My Personal Blog, The Iron Gate, Submissive Guide, Submissive Journal Prompts, and help my Master KnyghtMare with Kink Network Sites. I started blogging when I was exploring D/s online in 2003. I needed advice, mentors and helping hands. Since then I’ve made it my mission to help novice submissives understand themselves and the services they wish to provide. Read more >>
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