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Thoughts on M/s and Advanced Learning
During the munch Master and I attended on Saturday there was a lively discussion on Master/slave relationships. I find it quite interesting to hear what people consider to be M/s vs. D/s. The presenter gave a description that to me sounded exactly the same. Description was like the slave has no limits other than those [...]
Needing Play
I’m hungry. It’s been quite a while since Master and I played more than just a little bondage or pain during sex. I am really craving an intense session. Master is more than willing to comply so I’m sure that it will be in my near future. The fantasy that I wrote about last week [...]
TMI Tuesday #183
1. Marriage and children aside, what has been your greatest accomplishment in life? Graduating college when even my family thought I’d give up. 2. Aside from healthy and happy children, what is your greatest ambition for the future? Developing into the D/s relationship we know is in there, deep in protocol and ritual and lots [...]
A Wealth of Information
Yesterday’s munch went really well. We met Mr Iowa Leather 2008, Sir Liam and his slave Bella. He has a passion to unite all of the Iowa kink communities, create a community center in Des Moines and run a yearly (or bi-yearly) event in Iowa. He’s got the obssessive passion, if he gets support it [...]
Love and D/s
Master and I had a little discussion today that I thought was interesting. I told Master that I didn’t think that we’d survive as a couple if the D/s went away and all that was left was love. He agreed. Our love is a fabulous bonus to our relationship, but I know that we’d be [...]
Slave Training Lesson #5: Assessing Risk: Your Relationships, Work and Health
In this lesson I get to learn all about the risks I bring with me into the training program. These are all a part or growth and development. First, relationships… Rate your responses to the following statements. Use a scale of 1-10 where 1 means ‘never’ or ‘absolutely not’ and 10 means ‘always’ or most [...]
Happy 4th Anniversary Dear Blog
I’ve been writing for 4 years in this blog. It’s an amazing time frame for any blog and especially since I’ve not seen blogs out there last as long as mine or the few others I read. I don’t have any plans to stop blogging any time soon either. It’s been a wild ride. I [...]
Mediation Monday: Affirmations of a D/s Relationship
Cannon said: In your post here: http://blog.the-iron-gate.com/2007/08/28/all-a-matter-of-thought/ …you mentioned that you had a lot of great ideas for affirming and strengthening a D/s dynamic, even at a distance. I would be very interested in learning what you came up with. I myself am faced with this very situation. That’s a really good question and I’m [...]
Submissive Positions
Master and I have had talks about adding more ritual and structure into our relationship that would help with my focus and mindset. I mentioned a few things to him recently and he told me he wanted me to blog about them and think about them so that he can decide whether he likes the [...]
Thursday Question #53: Faking It
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog! Have you [...]
Public Displays of Discipline
If you are submissive you have likely been in trouble in public. It’s just a matter of time and mood for most of us. A lot of times it isn’t intentional either. And in those moments as you look your owner in the eye you know that s/he will decide to either chastise you there [...]
Public Displays of Dominance/submission
Exposing who we are as Dominant and submissive around people who aren’t party to what we do is dangerous and inappropriate. They have not consented to be party to a scene by anyone. But when it comes to D/s it is who we are and so it can be displayed without harm for those witnessing [...]
Acceptance
I came into this lifestyle community with one huge goal in mind: Accepting other people and their various kinks. At the time I was very new to the lifestyle, very new to my flourishing D/s relationship and very unsure of what I wanted as a Dominant, I knew practically nothing really. So when I started [...]
Topping from the Bottom, again
You have to love it when someone has the guts to say something that really hits home for you. I’ve seen a lot of blogs out there with the submissive is pretty much whining that the Dom isn’t Dom enough and that they don’t give theme enough direction. Or the ones who say that they [...]
Meditation Monday: The Voyage
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands, but in seeing with new eyes.” -Marcel Proust I’m at the point in my submission where the new experiences are few and far between and what I need to do now is see what I have in all of its facets and points of [...]
Thursday Question #44: First Times
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog! What was [...]
Unbalanced Stability makes for a Balanced D/s Relationship
In kaya’s post about Stability in Dominants she brings up that she feels the Dominant in the relationship should be more stable than the submissive. The stability she lists are emotional, financial, career choice and mental. She also wanted to know if our standards for partners, especially Dominants, can be too high. I’d like to [...]
Collared vs. Owned
I am collared… does that mean I am also owned? Are the words synonymous or do they have different meanings? I’ve read several differnet viewpoints on this subject. The arguments appear to be clear and understood. Those that argue yes, when you are collared you are also owned cement their belief that when you become [...]
Thursday Question #42: Depression and D/s
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog! Have you [...]
BDSM and Children Do Not Mix
Recently in a forum I read about someone who was just starting a D/s relationship and was bringing someone into the home. The dominant stated that she wanted ideas of how to tell her 9 year old daughter about what she might be seeing and the behaviors that the slave she was bringing in would [...]
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