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Sticky: No Blogathon For Me… Unless
Unfortunately I have to announce that I will not be able to do blogathon on my own this year because it is happening on the day I hold my local munch. The munch is 10 hours long (it’s a mini-event). The only way I could participate is if I did a group blog of at [...]
Obstacles
Today I worked on some crafts. I made a couple duct tape floggers to sell. If you are interested in one, head on over to my shop. I have the mono colored one listed so far, but I’ll get the duo color one up sometime tomorrow. I’m also working on a duct tape slapper that [...]
Slave Training Lesson #5: Assessing Risk: Your Relationships, Work and Health
In this lesson I get to learn all about the risks I bring with me into the training program. These are all a part or growth and development. First, relationships… Rate your responses to the following statements. Use a scale of 1-10 where 1 means ‘never’ or ‘absolutely not’ and 10 means ‘always’ or most [...]
Lesson 2: What kind of slave am I?
Training with Miss Abernathy, Lesson 2 Reading lesson to helps me figure out where my current abilities and talents would take me in slavehood. The exercise was a quiz of sorts Exercise: Imagine you are a live-in slave, serving your ideal dominant. What would your life be like? You can do a Quiz Farm type [...]
What’s in a Name: Master
All over the internet there are several common questions and topics that get exhausted to the point of being mute. Some of these I’ve even written about here. Topics that get batted around the blogosphere and kinkosphere often are submissive vs slave, SCC vs RACK, BDSM and abuse, True and Real to name a few. [...]
Public Displays of Discipline
If you are submissive you have likely been in trouble in public. It’s just a matter of time and mood for most of us. A lot of times it isn’t intentional either. And in those moments as you look your owner in the eye you know that s/he will decide to either chastise you there [...]
BDSM and Children Do Not Mix
Recently in a forum I read about someone who was just starting a D/s relationship and was bringing someone into the home. The dominant stated that she wanted ideas of how to tell her 9 year old daughter about what she might be seeing and the behaviors that the slave she was bringing in would [...]
Submission Training
I’ve just finished Kushiel’s Justice which if you have read the Kushiel’s Legacy Series you will want to pick this up. I’ve been waiting for 5 months for it come out in paperback and the day finally came. I love it and was doubly excited to see that there is a finally book coming soon [...]
Helpless Fuck Whore
Sometimes when you are itching for some play it’s a very specific type of play that you want. In our relationship I’m free to ask for what I want, but Master does not have to comply. Today I asked Master for some helpless fuck whore time. I wanted to be bound so that I couldn’t [...]
Nature vs Nuture Again
Yes, I’ve brought up this debate here before and I’ve read it in a hundred places too. Your blogs out there are teeming with it on occasion. Is the desire to be submissive natural or is it part of the way you were brought up? Especially when there was abuse involved. Those internal radars go [...]
Thursday Question #17 Review
This week we talked about Fear Play and how it enhances your play. Come see what people had to say. Do you participate in Fear Play with your partner? What is a reoccurring fear that is enhanced in your play? Sarah says: Sensory deprivation was my first bottoming experience, and I love it to this [...]
Thursday Question #15 Review
What sexual behavior won’t you do or would do only under certain conditions? Write about those to clarify your boundaries. This week we talked about sexual limits to your relationship. Here’s what people had to say: Mara Tudor says: I am not crazy about anal play, and I hate it when Master does anything to [...]
Object Space
I am an object of Master’s desire. His affection and passion are poured out on me, sometimes literally. Master loves to use me as an object, be that any orifice. I am his to do as he desires and from this I get so much power. Power to submit, power to feel, power to be [...]
Curtain Falls
Well folks, It’s been a wonderful time here bring awareness for BDSM vs. Abuse. I’ve raised almost $500 for The National Leather Association-International Domestic Violence Project. Thank you so much to all my sponsors who believed with me that change starts with just $1. I hope that throughout this event if you’ve skimmed or read [...]
Essay: BDSM and Child Abuse
by Raven Shadowborne This is a topic that comes up very often in discussing BDSM. It is guaranteed to cause some very emotional responses. Many try to link a submissive personality to past child abuse. Saying that a submissive personality is a psychological remnant of the past abuse. Some try to say that BDSM is [...]
Essay: BDSM Or Abuse?
By Hans Meijer snippet below: In order to get a few – indeed quoted way too often – urban legends out of the way first: scientific research shows that the number of people with a traumatic (abuse) history within the erotic power exchange group is no different from any other group. Since the same research [...]
Essay: Red Flags – Dominants
Norische has a couple essays that deal with warning signs of dangerous situations and people. This first one is titled: Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts – Part One: Dominants She gives a few key things to look out for in Dominants that are bad news. If someone submits to [...]
Ribbon Campaigns
Domestic Violence has it’s own ribbon. Domestic Violence in the lifestyle has a ribbon campaign too. Ribbon of Hope The Ribbon of Hope is the color purple, symbolizing abuse survivors young and old. We are from all walks of life, everywhere from around the world, and the white dove is the eternal symbol of hope. [...]
My story
When I was just getting started in BDSM, I didn’t know a lot about safety. I didn’t screen possible play partners and I rarely set up safe calls. I blame it on ignorance or naiveness. I went off alone late at night for what turned out to really be a booty call. I didn’t know [...]
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