The past three months have been amazing as far as my sexual development. In the first few days I explored the site up and down finding topics that I’d love to learn about and play around with with KM. Then he tied my hands behind my back. He was not going to watch the videos with me; I was the student so I had to go about the learning. So, with the new information I went searching the site again and I’m pleased that even someone going at it alone can find a lot of wonderful videos with things you can do yourself.
Category Archives: Kink Academy Education
Slap! Me Oh So Good [KA]
As with everything BDSM has to offer, there are what are considered light play activities and those that are intense, even on the edge or taboo. Face slapping is considered the latter. Two years ago I approached KM with a request for something I never thought I’d ask for. I asked if he’d slap me across the face.
He complied and we carefully added it into our kinky play. I loved it. It’s jarring and hot and sexy. We don’t have any training or education in this form of play so it’s always careful and he pulls his slaps, focusing on the soft tissue and avoiding as many bones as possible. I’m so very grateful for Ms Kali’s series on face slapping and can’t wait to add even more face slapping into our play now that we’ve had some excellent information.
Now, with face slapping, you have to be careful of a primal instinct of fight or flight. Physiologists will tell you that when you slap someone across the face, the chemical reaction in the brain tells the person to fight or run. This could have bad repercussions to what should have been a hot scene, so make sure you reduce that possibility by letting the person know you are going to slap them, and comforting them after with other sensations.
The OMG-Spot [KA]
With fingers deep in me, KM knows the exact spot that will make me purr like a kitten. He’s gotten very good at knowing every single little spot in my vagina and how it makes me react. I’ve got the “oh fuck that feels good” spot, the spot I love to feel his cock head [...]
Stretching Before Restraint and/or Play [KA]
I had no clue what to expect when I opened up the next videos to learn and explore what stretching before bondage and/or play would be like. Honestly, I’m not known for stretching before play, and it hurts. Sure, some of it is supposed to hurt but I also know that I could hold those [...]
The Pleasure of Humiliation [KA]
KM and I love verbal humiliation. Well and so, I never thought I would. I’ve been called a number of names from friend and enemy alike when I was growing up. When I started in BDSM I swore that I’d probably not like name calling and while I do have limits to what I can and can’t tolerate when it comes to words, I find great pleasure in being called nasty things. I really do feed on humiliation in a scene or just during hot, passionate sex.
Like this morning.
Let's Make Noise! [KA]
I’ve really learned a lot about how my breathing affects not only my arousal but also my partner’s arousal. Honestly I never thought that my sexual journey could get any better than it already is. Yet, I have 2 more videos to watch on this topic! Continuing on the Holistic Sexuality Series by Sheri Winston she talks about sound and how it enhances and amplifies your sexual experience (5 mins).
Let’s face it; I’m a noisy person when it comes to sex. I moan and sigh and talk a lot when KM and I are fucking.
For the Love of Laces 2 [KA]
In the previous post on corsets I watched several videos on the basic design and tips and tricks for both plus sized corset wearers and other simple tips. I was eager to keep going in my corset love and since there are so many lovely videos about corsets here at Kinky Academy I was definitely not going to be denied that pleasure.
This time I wanted to learn about corset construction. I’ve had dreams of making my own corsets (doubt that will come to fruition) so the construction of a corset has been very interesting to me. If you have an obsession with corsets as I do, I think you’ll enjoy the following 3 videos.
Learning to Breathe [KA]
Two weeks ago I told you about the start of my holistic sexual journey with identifying my breathing and using to enhance my sexual arousal and pleasure. Since then I’ve made sure I was more aware of my breathing during play and sex and I’m ready to tell you all what I learned about myself and how breathing really does help with arousal. Really!
Trust me, I didn’t believe it at first, but I made sure I was open enough to start seeing if I could breath myself to pleasure. I started out during sex. I not only paid attention to my breathing but I focused it into a noisier forceful deep pant that got faster and faster the more sexually turned on I was.
For the Love of Laces [KA]
Corsets are a common fetish item. I love the look of a corset and while I’m not brazen enough to wear them yet I desire to one day. I own one corset right now, but am a bit too big to wear it comfortably. I can see myself learning to wear them everyday as a part of my wardrobe, either as a foundation garment or as a decorative outer piece.
KM would love to buy me corsets but not until I start wearing the one I have, which is fair enough. I still drool over dreams of a custom fit corset. The hug, the bondage, the wonderful feel of a corset is my desire. I want to feel held in and under control with fabric and laces. Oh the dreams I have had.
Breathing for Arousal [KA]
Now I’m never sure if I get this whole mumbo jumbo about connecting with your body and a higher plane experience but that doesn’t stop me from giving it a try. I’ve been in spiritual trances before and anyone who’s grown up in a Pentecostal family or attended more than a few revivals in your time will know what I’m talking about. That time of prayer or laying on of hands, maybe some speaking in tongues and the swaying to some soft music, singing the chorus over and over. I believe that my past experience will help me understand what my focus is with these videos.
Continuing on my holistic journey to enhanced sexual experience I watched part 2 of Sheri Winston’s series on Holistic Sexuality called Breath (4 mins).