From Submissive Journal Prompts: If you came with an instruction manual what would be in it?

Well, this is a hard one. Let’s see…

1. Bind tightly to keep in the mood.
2. Tease endlessly even if not apparently in the mood.
3. Stir quietly to a high frenzy.
4. Accept that the mood of the submissive may not be acclimated to ever situation.
5. Sex can come in all varieties. Toss all together and dispense randomly.
6. Practice makes perfect
7. Never give up. Perfection is a long road.
8. I’m here for the long haul, stay with me.

–luna

From Submissive Journal Prompts:

Do you practice green living? What recycling do you do? Any tips you’d like to pass on?

I’ve been really thinking lately of how I can make a smaller impact in the earth. I don’t know why it’s taken me this long to work out how to live better. I’ve asked Master if he’s okay with beginning to recycle. I feel it will be a better step to make my service mean even more, not just to my Master, but with the world.

I never grew up in a house that cared about any recycling other than pop bottles because of the cash refund on the bottles. We had a lot of trash every single week. Now I have about 3 bags a week for the 2 of us. To me that is 2 too many. I’d like to cut it down to 1 bag a week, which means a lot of recycling. Hopefully I can get a list of what items the city picks up and what I can drop off at recycling centers around the area.

I’m working on getting this all organized to start next month.

For cleaning I have started buying the green ‘natural’ cleaning products. I know I could go even more green and use the old fashioned cleaners of bleach, vinegar, baking soda and so forth. I don’t clean as often as I could, but when I do I feel that even the smaller changes I can make will make a difference. I started making my own knitted dishcloths which I really like. I’m thinking they will be Christmas presents next year if I get better at my knitting.

Since I live in Iowa, there is 10% ethanol in the unleaded gasoline and it’s usually 10 cents cheaper. I’ve always purchased it. Just that slight change makes me feel good. At work I recycle my paper and toner when I can.

Anyone else have any small changes they have done or plan to do to make living on this earth a bit greener?

–luna

1. Do you consider sexy underthings a present for you or your partner?

Sexy underthings are a present for me, but I try to have him help pick them out because he’s the one going to have to look at me in them.
2. What are 3 characteristics of “your type”? Have you best relationship(s) been with your type or when you have gone against it?

My best relationship is this one. I’ve only been in one other and that didn’t go so well. My type is intelligent, witty, and passionate. Master is thankfully all of these things.
3. What is on your Santa list this year?

My Santa list is full of things he can’t get me. Like energy and time, the need for less sleep and more libido.

4. Generally speaking, who has historically had a higher libido, you or your partner(s)?

My partners have all had to put on the brakes for me at some point. I’d love to have as much going as they do, but I just can’t measure up.
5. The unsculptured female bush seems to have passed from fashion. What about men, do you think they need to trim and shave “down there”?

Trimmed is definitely preferred. I like shaved but only on occasion. I get to trim Master’s hair whenver I want. He knows that I’ll give more blowjobs if it’s trimmed.

From FetLife Blog Prompts Group: Do you see the latest trend towards fetish wear and fetish jokes in the media as a fad? Is it a sign that society is accepting kink? Does it have cons as well as pros?

What’s your thoughts?

There is a lot of fetish appearing in media and it has a positive and negative effect on the lifestyle as a whole.

The Goth look with collars and leather and all black has begun to desensitize people. They aren’t shocked when they see collars and other items while walking around the mall. We are able to walk almost invisible in a lot of places because of this. Well, at least a lot of larger malls anyway. I live in a small town, it’s just not possible here yet. I don’t know a lot about Gothic lifestyle, but many of them are into BDSM activities also, but it’s not always the case. From what I can pick up they appear to work against society and not look for acceptance, the anti-norm.

The negative aspect of having more news items involving fetish aspects make what it is that we do seem really demented, dangerous and abnormal. It can turn open minded people against the whole lifestyle. I’ve seen enough bad media and ‘accidents’ reported that would make even the newest newbie a bit of caution. I have a feeling that some of what we see is because people are trying it out without all the information, maybe they saw it on TV or something. This is a double edged sword. It’s great to know that people are becoming open enough to explore kinky things in their bedroom and perhaps could be loving it. it’s not good that they are doing this without all the safety information on hand, they don’t know that there are other resources available perhaps and then something tragic happens.

The effect of BDSM as a fad might be along the same line as the 60′s when it was cool for free love, rock, drugs and peace. People think it’s cool for awhile, but it will fad and only those that still hold true to the desires they have will stay in the lifestyle in any level.

Spanking, bondage and other kinky adventures might be a fad in some areas, where it would be cool to fit in with your friends and so you try what you have heard others talked about. I really don’t think that this sort of idea turns into something serious very often. However it is possible that just trying something your friends talked about may turn you on to something that you never knew you had a desire to do.

The infestation of bad information online has me worried about the people who might want to take up a kinky activity. There is no way to police the internet but as long as we make sure to spread the good websites out there and make sure that we can keep the real information available it might help prevent an accident. I work hard on my websites to make sure that there is safety information or varied opinions on things so that hopefully people can form their own opinions.

–luna

From Submissive Journal Prompts:

“What one has not experienced, one will never understand in print.” -Isadora Duncan

I began my journey into D/s and BDSM in online chat rooms; namely those on IRC (BDSM-Net and Bondage.com). I knew nothing of what the lifestyle would be for me, only the fantasy that I lived when I got home from class or work; it was a retreat from the everyday hardship that I was living with. I felt the control release and the pleasure of making someone else happy. I loved the creative talent it afforded me in my poetry and writing, the scenes I participated in. It became an art. I fell in love with the fantasy of it. Even when I accepted an online collar I thought that there was no way I could really love this in real. The activities I participated in, the rules I followed, the tasks assigned to me all seemed a part of the fantasy.

I didn’t understand why those that were ‘real’ shunned the way I behaved and looked down on my personae as one that would be trapped in online play for all my life. I didn’t understand what they were talking about when they talked about service and hardship in surrender, about the pleasure of being there for their owner, about serving and the pride in the words, “good girl”. I never understood the reality of what I was playing in.

Until one day I started asking a lot of important questions of myself. I wanted to experience the SM for real. I wanted to be tied up and see what the draw to my pleasure senses was. I wanted to know what it was like to kneel and serve someone. I wanted to hear “good girl” for something I had done. Was it going to remain fantasy? I seriously didn’t know. I thought that maybe it would just lead to kinky sex and I was okay with that also. I really didn’t know what I wanted nor could I have imagined that my life would be as it is now or where it will be in years to come. My surrender was not easy and there are parts of it that I still cling to; a part of my independence that Master is allowing me to hang on to.

I’ve known submissives that can only experience online or LDR relationships. I do not shun them as I was shunned. I know the desire and the pull to live it in any form you can. I was lucky, I guess, and left my husband to explore the part of me drawn to BDSM, the service and surrender specifically. I’ve been able to embrace the relationship I am in and am so very thankful for the role I played online to test the waters.

Online is no substitute and you can’t learn all that there is to know about living this life from essays and forums. You have to experience it to truly know. Every journey is different but I am grateful for my online VT beginnings. Without them I would not have met my Master. Now we live happily together.

But even now I can’t see how to explain how my life is to someone online. I don’t know how to put my service to him in words that someone with no experience or ability to experience would understand. I don’t think words like that really exist.

–luna

From Submissive Journal Prompts:

List 5 things that you are grateful for in your life.

1. I’m grateful for my ability to change. Without the desire to make my life better and more fulfilling I would be stuck working at a dead end job with no happiness in my life. Since I’ve been able to change my thinking, my behavior and my thought process I’ve moved up in the world, I finished school, I have a Master that loves me completely and I’m making my body healthier too. Without this internal drive I don’t know where I’d be.

2. I’m grateful for friends. Since I’ve moved into this lifestyle the BDSM community has been my rock, my wealth of friendships and resources that I’ve been able to lean upon has been so immense. Without the people I’ve been able to call my friends I don’t think I would have stepped away from online play and fantasy into the real. My friends stand by me and aren’t afraid to tell me that I’m being selfish or stupid. They are also the first ones to say that the know I’ve changed, they are happy with how I hold and conduct myself and because of that the bond of friendship is even stronger.

3. I’m thankful for love. The love I feel for Master is the most profound feeling I have ever had. It’s so deep that if I spend too much time thinking of it, I will cry the hard chest hurting cry that overpowers your thoughts. It’s like coming to the realization that you are important for the first time in your life you mean something to someone else. That someone will do anything they can to make sure your life is perfect. I’m in that type of love right now and we give each other perfection every single day. I never want to lose that.

4. I’m thankful for my health. While I am working to make that better I ‘m thankful that even though I’m considered obese that I haven’t had the high blood pressure, the onset of diabetes, severe knee and back problems or asthma. I’m healthy enough to get up off the floor under my own power, I can walk for 20 minutes without being winded and I want to be more active. My current health will help me be more healthy down the road. This goal will be acheived.

5. I’m thankful for passion. Not just lust but the awe-inspiring passion in community, or politics, life or love. This passion is the driving force for all things. I love that my passion for this lifestyle helps me be a better me and hopefully is a beacon to someone on a similar struggle. The inner struggle to become and the outer struggle to improve. I have a passion to change. I will change and I know that with all the other items on this list I will overcome.

–luna

From Submissive Journal Prompts:

How do you feel about the idea of ‘breaking a slave’?

For me, the idea of breaking a slave goes against the natural progression of a submissive/slave. I perceive it as a forced breakdown of someone’s own will, their own attitude and sometimes their own thought process.

What generally results is a blank canvas upon which the Master can apply behaviors, attitudes and reactions that would please them. In many broken slave cases I’ve read about; the submissive/slave doesn’t even remember how to think for themselves anymore. They have no dependence, they have no limits where they used to have limits and in very rare cases I’ve seen fear of the unknown where things once were known.

I really don’t like the idea of training just to break a slave into their base role. It can be very damaging to the person emotionally and mentally. You could wind up with someone that is no where near the person you started with. Do they then get discarded?

I guess it boils down to the fact that I don’t like people to be treated as chattel. We are human beings and while playing as animals or temporary treatment as animals can be beneficial to a D/s dynamic I don’t see it improving a person’s life to be treated such all the time.

Now I’ve seen and read about submissives and slaves that consider themselves broken but I see them in a different view. They have willingly become powerfully subservient, brainwashed (for lack of a better word), and live solely for the rule of the Master of the house. I find these relationships challenging and hard yet beautiful and very moving. It’s like these people move as one person. I don’t believe that the process has hurt the persons involved.

My choice would be to keep the submissive intact and work other ways into stopping or changing behaviors that are not appreciated. I know my Master is very good at working into my mind and helping me change my attitude and behavior.

For example I used to be a very nosy gossip. I loved a juicy rumor and would have no problem spreading it around where ever I could. Master found that very distasteful and worked it out of me. I’m now a better person because of it.

I am not broken, I really don’t like the idea of breaking a slave, but I can’t say that those that are, are any worse off (when successful).

From Submissive Journal Prompts:

“All my soul follows you, love encircles you and I live in being yours.” -Robert Browning

What does it mean to you to be “someone’s”?

I love this quote and when I put it in the prompts I knew I wanted to talk about how it strikes me and places me in my happy place. What speaks to me about the quote in particular is that it can be individual facets of my relationship with Master, but it can also be a blending of all things that exist between us.

I follow him anywhere; I’d follow his lead in any direction he wishes to take me. From sexual limits to behavior modification he can lead me anywhere and I’d willingly follow him. I am learning to obey his will more readily and his desires are becoming my desires.

The base of our relationship is the love we have for each other. We rarely argue and I think that comes from being so open with our feelings, and we let our love define what we want from each other. In most cases we desire the same thing which, I believe makes us a good match. I love Master utterly and completely. He is the first thought in the morning and my last waking dream at night. He is the reason I feel so at peace with who I am and he has lead me to love myself and accept my perverted desires as completely normal.

I love so fully in his ownership that I couldn’t imagine any other life. The struggles outlined in this journal have only brought me deeper in my submission to him. I love that he has claimed me. He owns every part of me and because every part of me is his, he can care for it as he does all of his possessions.

Being owned for me gives me a solid foundation on which to build my behavior, develop my skills and serve him as best as I can. I am his and want nothing but to attend his needs.

–luna