I came into this lifestyle community with one huge goal in mind: Accepting other people and their various kinks. At the time I was very new to the lifestyle, very new to my flourishing D/s relationship and very unsure of what I wanted as a Dominant, I knew practically nothing really.

So when I started attending munches I watched how people behaved and listened to them talk about what it is they do. For the most part it was, what I now consider, rather plain things like spanking, flogging, bondage. But some mentioned needle play, some mentioned knife play. Nobody has mentioned face slapping in front of me that I can recall.

Some of these activities I personally do not like, not one bit. Needles and knife play both have no place in my home, my life or even in my head as mere thoughts. Yet I didn’t shy away from the people who talked about them and participated in these facets of play. I wholeheartedly accepted them and embraced their interests as “it’s their kink and not mine and that is fine with me”. Even people who are polyamorous, a facet to relationships that grinds against my very soul, were accepted in my view of the kinky world and I managed to strike friendships with those who did this.

Now remember I said nobody has mentioned face slapping? After Thursday/Friday when myself and luna had experimented with face slapping she said “I don’t think we should tell anybody about this” which means only one thing around here: they (the people in the communities we are in) would not be accepting. After mentioning it to two people whom I trust I got the same response, don’t share it with the groups at large.

So at the end of this story I’m left wondering about the BDSM community. Not just here but everywhere. You want me to be accepting of your kink, to not judge you based on it. Do the same for me.