Yes. I had to really think about this one, but yes. It would be unfortunate to those I’m acquainted with and I would help them however I could, but that wouldn’t change my life.

As it is now, Master is a white collar worker and my whole family is below blue collar, mostly under the poverty line in fact. But I love them and don’t expect to treat them any less just because my life is different than theirs is.

It also means though that I can see where I came from as a child and am glad that I was able to do better for myself and feel good about where I am in life.

Now if the question had said that I couldn’t help them out a bit, then I would have to turn down the gift… it would go against my personal beliefs.

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The one piece of advice I give everyone… get off the internet. Find a local group, get to know people in real life and network with others. If you wish to find someone that’s one of the best ways to go about it.

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Topping from the bottom has submissives all over fearing asking for anything. This shouldn’t be the case. If you have a NEED, and not a want then you should be able to express that to your Dominant without repercussions of any sort.

As with any request, be respectful. If there is an accusation that they promised and didn’t fulfill it, keep it to how it has affected you, not what they did or didn’t do. “I feel….” works wonderfully for this.

If your Dominant says that you are topping from the bottom every time you express anything then they aren’t keeping your needs in mind and a renegotiation period may be necessary to get back on track. Hopefully you both can step out of role in order to do this.

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I would if there wasn’t something like that already in existence. http://taking-it-off.com/ is run by starla and has a pretty good success rate the last time I was a part of the site.

I also, at one time, ran the Healthy and Kinky group on FetLife, but have since given ownership over to someone else.

I’m all for community, but with so many communities already in existence I’m certain that subs and slaves can find what they need from what already exists.

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Excellent question and one I’ve answered only to myself several times. Submission is a way for me to have structure and give service back. I love the peace and order I feel in my life when I submit to Master.

It all started with sexual submission and masochism and in that I am most definitely a bottom. I started to feel restless outside the bedroom and that’s when I realized I needed a role to embrace all the time. This is when I chose to submit. It’s not easy but when it clicks it’s the best feeling!

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I don’t have any really. If I want Master happy with me then I’ll do what he wants me to do. If I want to feel good about myself, even proud for accomplishing something I need to do it.

Now, part of that is making sure I set goals and ways to achieve those goals. Commonly I use my kitchen timer. I set it for 15 mins and do whatever I need to do on my task list. Then when it goes off I get to do something fun for 15 mins. And so the cycle continues.

Other than that, motivators are really just ways to improve myself. If I don’t DO something then I can’t improve myself.

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My ideal collar is whatever Master wants me to wear really. I’ve always loved chocker collars as a teen/early 20′s. When Master told me he wanted me to wear that style for a collar I was fine with that. I’m wearing a locked steel one now, and find it beautiful.

I could always dream of perhaps diamonds or pearl or lapiz lazuli (love the marbled blue). Feeling the collar in my heart is more important than that of the outward symbols Master chooses that I wear.

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Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!

This week’s question comes from Submissive Journal Prompts on Sensual Service:

If the govenment brought back real and legal slavery, would you sign yourself over to your Owner as his/her slave?

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!

Complete the following sentences…

1. In my sexiest private fantasy, I…
2. When I masturbate, I often think about…
3. My most erotic memory is…

Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!

Have you ever faked an orgasm? Did your partner know or find out? How do you feel about faking it in a D/s relationship?

Have you ever given false responses during play; for example moaning a little louder than the strike really felt like, or squirming extra because you think the Top might enjoy it? How do you feel about being overly expressive during play?