Questions by Alexis

I’m continuing March question month!


Have you found it any easier to process being in a mono-poly relationship?

Not really. The most stress and depression I go through now has to do with my inability to understand things from a poly perspective. Master is an extremely patient person and he’s so very helpful sharing his thought process and how things work in his head. But so many times I’m dealing with jealousy and selfishness and possessive behaviors.  The more time that passes it does bother me less, but the times that it does bother me are just as terrible as in the beginning. Now, I’m sticking with Master. Most people would say that I’m no longer compatible with him and that I should find someone else, but I don’t see it that way. I’ve fully consented to his being poly and it doesn’t make OUR relationship any less powerful because he has other relationships. The issues are completely mine to work through with his help.

Will KM still see Froggy when you move?

He says he will, but not nearly as often as he does now. He has said that it might be monthly or so, depending on his need. She’s a play partner only that takes care of his more extreme, edgy things that I can’t handle so when he needs it, he’ll likely set up a play date.

Do you have days where your rules are not enforced?

Nope, I’m his slave all the time. There are times, like when I’m sick, that my rules are more lax but he still expects me to obey him. Most of my rules are habit by now.

I also would like to tell you how much your blog and subguide have helped me with my own journey. I have found your advice and insights to be extremely helpful and I wish you all the best. I am sorry some mean, narrow minded people made you so upset a few months ago.

Thank you. I appreciate it.



  1. Nice Anon’s avatar

    Is it the actual act of analingus/rimming you do not like or wish to pursue? Can you explain why you feel that way about it? taboo? revolted? tried and hated?

    Have you tried, after he has bathed, bubbled himself up with glorious smelly things and is as fresh as a daisy?

    (I personally found ATM very hard in the beginning, I would simply shut my mouth and resist, nearing having his cock up my nose at one point!)

    Would a punishment dynamic help you do the tasks you find most difficult (consensually)


  2. Liv’s avatar

    Thank you for your honesty about the mono-poly dynamic. You have no idea how helpful it is to know I am not the only one going through/thinking these things. You are a great role model just by your willingness to be honest.

  3. SapphireRose’s avatar

    I had another question! I saw when you answered Alexis’ question about moving that you are moving in July. How does it make you feel that the poly relationships (or was it just the one relationship?) is causing you to move to new cities? How do you feel about the whole notion of moving?

  4. Daisy’s avatar

    What are you favourite parts to your dynamic?

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