Some time ago you posted about hiding binge eating from your Master. Has that been resolved? How was it handled?
I don’t binge eat any more. When I revealed to him that I was binge eating we looked up some support for me through online and book means (face to face was just too expensive). I understood the feelings I was seeking from the eating and I get them from other means now. Also, the foods I was bingeing are no longer in my “able to eat” list because of my gluten intolerance so if I were to eat them, I’d be ill. This isn’t something i want and would be a dead give away to Master that I’d broken my promise.
Was your gluten intolerance “officially” diagnosed? I ask only because I’m close with someone who has, as far as the internet says, every single symptom of gluten intolerance but medical tests say she doesn’t have a gluten intolerance and I’m wondering what the chances are that she could still be gluten ‘sensitive’ without having the official diagnosis and you’re the only other person I know who is gluten intolerant.
No it wasn’t. It’s more likely that I have Celiac, the genetic autoimmune form of gluten intolerance, seeing as my father has it; immediate family has a 1 in 40 chance of having it too. Since I grew up in a household that I was exposed to gluten alternatives I knew what I needed to do to stop eating it. So, I just cleared my food list of gluten containing foods. Within a week or two my digestive issues cleared up, my brain fog went away, the hair and skin issues healed up. It was that quick. I told my Dr that I went gluten free because of my thought that I had gluten intolerance of some sort, what issues had miraculously cleared up because of the dietary change and he wanted to do a test.
A test, once you are gluten free would require me to eat gluten again for at least 2 weeks. I’ve already purged my system so that would mean I’d be very very ill for at least 2 weeks. This isn’t something I’m willing to do. So I told him that I was going to continue under the assumption that I have gluten intolerance and not seek a diagnosis. He has it on my chart now, but only because I showed him the research and with my family history he couldn’t deny the possibility.
Chances are your friend could be gluten sensitive without it registering on a test. If she thinks she might have it, she could go completely gluten free for 2 weeks and see how she feels. If she feels better, then you have an answer. Gluten is in everything, so it’s a hard diet to follow, but worth the physical improvements, that’s for sure. The gluten that she’d need to avoid is also in Barley and Rye – so no beer and many other malted alcohols.
How are things between you and froggy since you blogged your feelings? Are they strained? I found being overly truthful about my feelings sent M’s other at the time running for the hills, which wasn’t my intention at all. It seems a catch 22, doesn’t it?
Things were very strained at first, but we are working on shifting the relationship so that I don’t have to be exposed to it as much. It took me learning about different poly relationships because I thought I’d have to just get over it and deal, when in fact a V style relationship could be completely separate relationships. She understands and Master will do anything I need to happen so that I’m comfortable.
It will work better when we live closer to her – in that I’ll have my place and she’ll have hers. That way I won’t feel invaded and won’t be exposed to the relationship as much. I had to be honest to them because it was negatively affecting me. I was getting physical ill when froggy was visiting, from headaches to stomach aches and flu. It’s better now that everyone knows.
I know your M moved to the states from elsewhere. Presumably, he left family behind. Have you met his family? Will you be traveling to visit with them?
KM is from England. I have not met his family, but we chat on Facebook. He doesn’t really talk to his family at all, he was the black sheep, but I’m sure the eventuality will be that we’ll go visit. I want to be a tourist in England someday!