LunaKM, I was just wondering what After-Care is and how it is carried out or performed if you will? Are there different types and such?
I’ve written a bit about aftercare on Submissive Guide to get you started:
- What is Aftercare?
- The Question of Aftercare
- Caring for Yourself After a Scene: Self Aftercare
- How to Help Your Dominant Recover from Play
Aftercare is the physical and emotional care that follows a play session or scene. It can be as simple as getting water and curling up in a blanket to wound care and crying it out. I compare it to cuddling after sex. Some people need the cuddling, others a cigarette and still others fall straight to sleep. The variety of types of aftercare vary from person to person and session to session.
Not everyone needs the same amount of aftercare and not every Dominant gives aftercare. As part of any good negotiation, aftercare should be discussed so that the responsibilities of it are known ahead of time.
I hope this helps answer your question.
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