Comments on: It’s not Normal http://lunakm.me/2010/01/its-not-normal/ luna's personal adventures into BDSM, submission, service and love Mon, 06 Sep 2010 00:57:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jessie Beth http://lunakm.me/2010/01/its-not-normal/comment-page-1/#comment-8760 Jessie Beth Tue, 12 Jan 2010 17:41:59 +0000 http://lunakm.me/?p=3464#comment-8760 My boyfriend has actually been going through something similar...we're contributing it to stress. But Kitten is right. A lot of times, no matter how much we want something, our bodies just don't agree with us and we just need to try different things to see what works and what doesn't. It seems your desire is there, you just need to act upon it hon. .-= Jessie Beth´s last blog ..<a href="http://jesseebeth.wordpress.com/2010/01/12/meh-pissed-off/" rel="nofollow">m’eh >.< pissed off</a> =-. My boyfriend has actually been going through something similar…we’re contributing it to stress. But Kitten is right. A lot of times, no matter how much we want something, our bodies just don’t agree with us and we just need to try different things to see what works and what doesn’t.

It seems your desire is there, you just need to act upon it hon.
Jessie Beth´s last blog ..m’eh >.< pissed off My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: kitten http://lunakm.me/2010/01/its-not-normal/comment-page-1/#comment-8759 kitten Tue, 12 Jan 2010 08:36:16 +0000 http://lunakm.me/?p=3464#comment-8759 I guess I don't get the "not normal" part of this. Our bodies are cyclic in nature. This is especially true for women. So what if you aren't a purring sex kitten all the time? You aren't meant to be. Our bodies aren't wired for that no matter how much we might want them to be. Sexual desire ebbs and flows just like everything else in life. A lot of it is mental though. My Owner figured out that my body cycles through periods of desire and periods of disinterest and if I'm in a down slump sexually and he wants me to be up, he has to remove me from the things that cause my mental desire to plummet. For me, those things are nesting, mothering behaviors... housekeeping is fine. Homemaking can sometimes make me practically chaste. It becomes all I think about. If he wants the fire to burn consistently, he has to keep the pilot light lit with a little bit of desire. Master randomly grabs me, kisses me, pinches me, spanks me, pulls my hair, pushes me against a wall reminds me where I belong. He keeps me just a little on edge sexually. Nothing over the top so that I can't function, but just little reminders that I am desirable and that he desires me. When he wants me, it's just a little moment before I'm usually right there with him... but sometimes I'm not.. and that's perfectly normal. One thing also is that a lot of plus sized women tend to produce hormones in the wrong amounts. You might need to see a doctor or get your hormone levels tested. If your sexual hormones are imbalanced, it can make it harder for you to find your arousal. You might try a feminine tonic like red raspberry leaf or other herbs that regulate female hormones. Good Luck :) Kitten .-= kitten´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.ofthislife.net/?p=147" rel="nofollow">Super-Duper!</a> =-. I guess I don’t get the “not normal” part of this. Our bodies are cyclic in nature. This is especially true for women. So what if you aren’t a purring sex kitten all the time? You aren’t meant to be. Our bodies aren’t wired for that no matter how much we might want them to be. Sexual desire ebbs and flows just like everything else in life.

A lot of it is mental though. My Owner figured out that my body cycles through periods of desire and periods of disinterest and if I’m in a down slump sexually and he wants me to be up, he has to remove me from the things that cause my mental desire to plummet. For me, those things are nesting, mothering behaviors… housekeeping is fine. Homemaking can sometimes make me practically chaste. It becomes all I think about. If he wants the fire to burn consistently, he has to keep the pilot light lit with a little bit of desire. Master randomly grabs me, kisses me, pinches me, spanks me, pulls my hair, pushes me against a wall reminds me where I belong. He keeps me just a little on edge sexually. Nothing over the top so that I can’t function, but just little reminders that I am desirable and that he desires me. When he wants me, it’s just a little moment before I’m usually right there with him… but sometimes I’m not.. and that’s perfectly normal.

One thing also is that a lot of plus sized women tend to produce hormones in the wrong amounts. You might need to see a doctor or get your hormone levels tested. If your sexual hormones are imbalanced, it can make it harder for you to find your arousal. You might try a feminine tonic like red raspberry leaf or other herbs that regulate female hormones.

Good Luck :)

Kitten
kitten´s last blog ..Super-Duper! My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: anonymouse http://lunakm.me/2010/01/its-not-normal/comment-page-1/#comment-8758 anonymouse Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:58:40 +0000 http://lunakm.me/?p=3464#comment-8758 I am sort of lost here. Seems you have two options, well three actually. knyghtmare. Take her no matter if she is responsive. Punish her for her nonresponsiveness through out the day. Most especially since she has stated numerous times she knows this is what you want and she is changing it. Or three, maybe you two are not compatiable and you should move on. I am sort of lost here. Seems you have two options, well three actually. knyghtmare. Take her no matter if she is responsive. Punish her for her nonresponsiveness through out the day. Most especially since she has stated numerous times she knows this is what you want and she is changing it. Or three, maybe you two are not compatiable and you should move on.

]]> By: KnyghtMare http://lunakm.me/2010/01/its-not-normal/comment-page-1/#comment-8757 KnyghtMare Tue, 12 Jan 2010 06:20:12 +0000 http://lunakm.me/?p=3464#comment-8757 When things get like this I tend not to initiate sex. In everyday life I'm a very touchy, feely person and when luna is in a responsive mood it means things can move on to sex later on. If luna is unresponsive, ignores me, or doesn't return any affection, touching, a smile, anything, it gives a very strong impression that if I wanted to take things farther it wouldn't be very satisfying for me. .-= KnyghtMare´s last blog ..<a href="http://blog.kink-network.com/2009/12/26/stability-at-long-last/" rel="nofollow">Stability at long last</a> =-. When things get like this I tend not to initiate sex.
In everyday life I’m a very touchy, feely person and when luna is in a responsive mood it means things can move on to sex later on.
If luna is unresponsive, ignores me, or doesn’t return any affection, touching, a smile, anything, it gives a very strong impression that if I wanted to take things farther it wouldn’t be very satisfying for me.
KnyghtMare´s last blog ..Stability at long last My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: pet angel http://lunakm.me/2010/01/its-not-normal/comment-page-1/#comment-8756 pet angel Tue, 12 Jan 2010 05:30:54 +0000 http://lunakm.me/?p=3464#comment-8756 Luna, i have the very same issue its like i'm broken. I want badly but i'm always so tired or we try and its like i have a steel clit i dont feel nothing but frustration which makes me bratty which aggrivates Master which gets my rump reddened which only makes the sexual tension that much higher. oh the vicious cycle just lettin u know your not alone!!!! Luna, i have the very same issue its like i’m broken. I want badly but i’m always so tired or we try and its like i have a steel clit i dont feel nothing but frustration which makes me bratty which aggrivates Master which gets my rump reddened which only makes the sexual tension that much higher. oh the vicious cycle just lettin u know your not alone!!!!

]]> By: WhippedBlade http://lunakm.me/2010/01/its-not-normal/comment-page-1/#comment-8755 WhippedBlade Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:43:29 +0000 http://lunakm.me/?p=3464#comment-8755 If he initiates instead of waiting for you to, do you find that you are more responsive, less, or about the same? If he initiates instead of waiting for you to, do you find that you are more responsive, less, or about the same?

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