Comments on: Is Sex Important? http://lunakm.me/2009/11/is-sex-important/ luna's explorations into BDSM, submission, service and love Tue, 09 Mar 2010 04:15:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: solsine http://lunakm.me/2009/11/is-sex-important/comment-page-1/#comment-8601 solsine Fri, 13 Nov 2009 02:40:01 +0000 http://lunakm.me/?p=3304#comment-8601 i find pain play very challenging when i'm in a state of pain already due to some bodily challenge ~ so maybe it's your back pain that's causing you a lack of interest? i suspect we only have so much sensation we can take at any given time, and serious pain you're having to deal with on an ongoing basis would make it difficult to process other forms of pain that might otherwise be pleasurable (or at least stimulating in a way you could process). Somebody posted a reply on Kitten's blog the other day saying that we actually don't build up a "tolerance" to pain, that in fact we grow more sensitive to pain with repeated exposure, rather than less sensitive. i don't know if this is true, but if so, it's very interesting! They said that if you have a sense that you've built up a tolerance, it really has to do with your processing/coping mechanisms, which makes absolute sense to me. It goes back to that discussion in the afterward of "The Compleat Slave" about does a masochist enjoy being hit by a car... the resounding answer was no! (duh!) BUT ~ experienced masochists DO know how to process/manage pain (even the unintentional and/or medical kind) better than those who haven't had to deal with it before. Anyway, just a few thoughts. i know most BDSM bloggers feel a strong need to keep up the sexual content, because it drives traffic way up, but i personally enjoy reading about ALL aspects of a 24/7 TPE Lifestyle. Maybe because i live in one myself, so i know full well that it's not all about being chained to the wall and whipped mercilessly... sometimes it's just about picking up His dirty socks, making dinner, and striving to maintain the grace and service of a good submissive/slave. i find pain play very challenging when i’m in a state of pain already due to some bodily challenge ~ so maybe it’s your back pain that’s causing you a lack of interest? i suspect we only have so much sensation we can take at any given time, and serious pain you’re having to deal with on an ongoing basis would make it difficult to process other forms of pain that might otherwise be pleasurable (or at least stimulating in a way you could process).

Somebody posted a reply on Kitten’s blog the other day saying that we actually don’t build up a “tolerance” to pain, that in fact we grow more sensitive to pain with repeated exposure, rather than less sensitive. i don’t know if this is true, but if so, it’s very interesting! They said that if you have a sense that you’ve built up a tolerance, it really has to do with your processing/coping mechanisms, which makes absolute sense to me.

It goes back to that discussion in the afterward of “The Compleat Slave” about does a masochist enjoy being hit by a car… the resounding answer was no! (duh!) BUT ~ experienced masochists DO know how to process/manage pain (even the unintentional and/or medical kind) better than those who haven’t had to deal with it before.

Anyway, just a few thoughts. i know most BDSM bloggers feel a strong need to keep up the sexual content, because it drives traffic way up, but i personally enjoy reading about ALL aspects of a 24/7 TPE Lifestyle. Maybe because i live in one myself, so i know full well that it’s not all about being chained to the wall and whipped mercilessly… sometimes it’s just about picking up His dirty socks, making dinner, and striving to maintain the grace and service of a good submissive/slave.

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