I got this question over on Sensual Service and while I don’t answer questions there, I thought I’d try to answer it here. If you have tips to help kat out, please feel free to leave them in the comments.
sexslavekat asks, “How do you keep your Master’s attention? How do you keep him from getting bored with you?”
I’m honestly not really sure about the context of this question. In general, I treat our relationship just like any other. It takes work from both of us to make it work. I could just as easily get bored with Master. It’s unlikely though.
We talk a lot about what we like, what interests us, what we are doing and what we want to be doing. It’s impossible not to have Master’s attention. He’s transfixed with me. He’s the only person I know that would stop what he is doing just because I asked for some attention. I’m at the top of his priority list. That makes me pretty darned special!
I don’t think Master would ever say I’m boring or that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore because there are no more secrets to explore. Now, taking kat’s name into context, perhaps she means sexually bored. You can always spice things up a bit. In fact when I do this, Master mentions that he’d like it more often. I wear lingerie as part of my at home uniform now (when I remember, it’s still a new request) and he knows it makes me feel sexy and I act that way then too. He likes when I wake him up sexually in the mornings and he loves when I just pounce him and beg for him to use me. If I weren’t interested in Master then he could easily get bored of me.
So I think sexually, the answer to the question about getting bored is don’t give him any reason to get bored. Change things up a bit. It took me a good 2 years to finally learn that just because I’m submissive doesn’t mean that we only have sex or play if Master initiates it. I can start it too, and he will usually agree completely. Of course, it is his prerogative to decide against it, if the time isn’t right. I don’t think I’ve reached a point where Master considers me boring and I hope I never do.
–luna
Meditation Monday is for me to be able to see my relationship through your eyes. I do hope to get questions or thoughts so that I can continue to journey. Please feel free to comment here with questions, or if you want to be more private, use my contact page up at the top and email me. I’d love to know your thoughts and hear your questions.
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