Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at BDSM is Love. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
Have you ever faked an orgasm? Did your partner know or find out? How do you feel about faking it in a D/s relationship?
Have you ever given false responses during play; for example moaning a little louder than the strike really felt like, or squirming extra because you think the Top might enjoy it? How do you feel about being overly expressive during play?
Possibly related posts:
I'm a large, curvy, lustful submissive learning the ropes in a full time D/s relationship. My explorations with love and life and BDSM have brought me closer to the edge of pain and pleasure, deep desires for rope bondage and debauchery but moreso a desire to delve deeper into submission and service to my Master 
Tom's cunt (8)
Kayla (7)
WhippedBlade (7)
Jessie Beth (6)
raven (5)
kethry (4)
anonymouse (3)
mr J (3)
patricialynn (3)
pet angel (3)
There is nothing that turns me off more then fake moaning, or even constant moaning! Just takes away the whole moment and trying to read if what your doing is good or not. I guess I’d just rather real, not feel like I’m in a porn and all this is just for show. I guess I’m a little hardcore when I say this, but I’ve never faked and of the few partners that I had that faked, it was all over.
I think exaggeration is ok, like “ooooh ya” translated: “keep going there, I think something in this direction might turn me on”, but outright faking it to turn the other on I just don’t get. Make it real so both can enjoy no?
I faked every orgasm save 2 in the 9 years and 11 months I was married… I will NEVER EVER EVER do it again… with Syd… I don’t have to.. I’m free to be me and he encourages me to feel things deeply and to express myself… I probably over do it, but not because I am embellishing, but because I am reveling in the freedom.
Excellent discussion point. I don’t think there’s any place for faking it in a D/s or M/s relationship, as it’s akin to lying. I wrote a complete blog post about it here.
I just can’t fake orgasms… I’m not a good actress… As well as, I don’t/haven’t upped the sound works during a scene… as I believe that if the reaction of more volume from me is what is needed or wanted – He’ll bring it on without my faking it or being asked to… I liked what Lelion commented re: not feeling like your in a porn or for show… that’s well said and a very good example to my own feelings about it ….
Faking and BDSM…
Interesting discussion going on at The Iron Gate (BDSM is Love) where the question to debate is “Faking It”, more so is faking moans, orgasms or what ever popular in BDSM or not at all welcomed? Check it out and give your point of view.
Bookmark/Se…
I faked a lot of orgasms when I was in my past marriage. The guy would never listen or learn when I showed him what I liked. He could never repeat it. So to get him to stop hurting me or boring me I’d fake it and we could then move on.
With Master I’ve never felt that he couldn’t please me. I showed him once and now I rarely have a desire to masturbate on my own. He’s fabulous at getting me off in so many ways.
During play I’m pretty honest with my noises and reactions. Being honest about how things are feeling is very important and besides Master can read my body language better than my noises could ever convey. He’d know if I was faking it; and why would you do that to yourself if he’s holding the paddle?