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Collared vs. Owned

By lunaKM on July 11, 2008

I am collared… does that mean I am also owned? Are the words synonymous or do they have different meanings?

I’ve read several differnet viewpoints on this subject. The arguments appear to be clear and understood.

Those that argue yes, when you are collared you are also owned cement their belief that when you become collared you become property of another person. This means you become owned and owner. I can see that being the case in several relationship dynamics but not all. A Master/slave relationship for example, or a pet dynamic could be owner and owned. Yes even some other D/s relationships it is considered this way.

Those that argue no have an interesting argument also. They say that in order to be owned you have to be a slave. No other dynamic can be considered true. These people also say that anyone can be collared, but you have to be serious and ‘true’ to be owned.

I really do have issues with people trying to place rules and structure to things defined by the lifestyle. This includes being collared and being owned. I like that people can have so many varying opinions about how their dynamis is better, different, unique than others. It makes us who we are.

I have used both terms together. Sometimes I refer to my Master as my owner. He is comfortable with either designation. I really don’t see a whole lot of difference for me. I’m proud to be considered either.

It makes no difference to me if you define yourself as owned or collared or both.

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2 responses to “Collared vs. Owned”

  1. Tristan's pet
    Tristan's pet
    July 13, 2008 at 3:03 pm |

    I’m glad to see that those of us who feel as you do on this matter are speaking out about this issue. Why some amongst us feel the need to police and define the terms others use within their relationships, is beyond me. I suppose some would take issue with me being a ‘pet’, as we don’t do any puppy, pony or other pet play. The fact is, my owner decided I was his pet, and that he owned me. I submit to him in this regard. If some-one has a problem with that, I wish they’d just keep it to themselves instead of pontificating in blogs and forums.

    Tp x

  2. Mara Tudor
    Mara Tudor
    July 13, 2008 at 11:04 pm |

    I wear Master’s collar and am certainly owned by him as much as one can be owned by another. However, sometimes I think he needs a collar to wear, too, since I know that I own him every bit as much as he owns me.

    Of course, I don’t think it’s a fashion accessory he’d much be into.

    I think that, in general, a collar is a symbol of ownership. And, ultimately, ownership and power exchange is what a BDSM relationship is all about.

    Still, I am all about someone defining their relationship however they see fit.