In a previous post I talked about the idea of adding another person to this relationship. Master and I still have it up in the air as to whether we would do well in a relationship like that. Nothing more has been discussed because we don’t have any prospective people to consider.
Master and I have been to play parties before and he has tied other people up but he has never ‘played’ with others. It’s really no wish of mine to keep him from playing with others, I do know that he has a jealous streak and that I’m all his (and that’s fine). So we’ve discussed whether I would be okay with him playing with other people and what that would entail. He has been asked by a good friend of ours if he would be willing to ‘scratch and itch’ on occasion since her Dominant is far away and she has permission to play with those she trusts.
Now, out of privacy, that’s all the information you’ll get on her but as to what Master has asked me I feel very special. He’s asked me if it’s okay, what things would be off limits or make me uncomfortable and he’s concerned about my feelings with this. I love that he’s so open and asking me all these questions. I think before now he hasn’t even thought about playing with other people at all.
I have several reasons why I have thought about loaning Master out to others. We are both new to the physical aspects of BDSM, but since Master is such a fast and intense learner he has picked up a lot of fun activities. He’s attentive and caring, very mindful and quick witted. If he were able to play with others and learn to pick up their physical cues, how their bodies respond he’s likely see more of what he does around me. He mentioned to me that he thinks he might be able to be less protective of me during play and allow things to push further since he’d be able to separate a bit and see things as a Top instead of always my loving Master (ever watchful for my slightest flinch).
I’d love it if he could let go more. With more experience he’d be able to stop concentrating on technique and more on how he feels and is reacting as well as how the bottom is reacting to things. This can also open up the possibility of learning advanced techniques! (grins)
Lastly, I think that his playing with others would allow him to explore activities that I may not have an interest in, or can’t play as intensely at. It would be more fulfilling for him to experience the things he aches to try but knows I can’t give him. It would make our relationship that much more electric.
I do have my boundaries set for him though. No intercourse. He needs to use barriers for any play that would involve fluids and no kissing. I’m okay with sexual touching of just about every other sort really as I’m an oddball and don’t really consider oral sex as actual sex, but more a foreplay act. Always have and frustratingly for him, always will.
Allowing him to play with others can certainly broaden our horizons and may even get us playing more often! I’m all for play and experience and sharing the wonderful man I have, my love, my Master with the local submissive community
Males and females can line up for interviews starting here *LOL*