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Monthly Archives: May 2008
Newly Discovered Blogs
Here is my list of newly discovered blogs within the BDSM blogosphere! I have found them very interesting and enjoyable to read. I hope you will enjoy them and feel free to leave a comment or two. You just may find a new favorite blog!
Dark moonlight
Devil Sexy Blue Dress 2
BDSM Netiquette
Etiquette is a code of behavior or a set of social rules that govern what we do. Within a BDSM context there are a lot more defined rules than in other settings or situations. I think a lot of what we do is with a set of rules. They are either posted or implied but they are always there.
Take munches for example. You know that most munches are in public places so dressing in fetish clothing is frowned upon. Then relationships have protocol established. Finally each person has a form of social etiquette that they follow. But what about the internet? Is there an etiquette that we as BDSM participants follow?
I think there is. Those people in chat rooms act differently than those I’ve met just through this blog, and then there is a different etiquette on social networks like FetLife, CollarMe and Alt. Care to guess which one seems the most fantastical?
Chat room netiquette seems far more fantasy-like than other areas of the web. All the submissives are spouting Sirs and Ma’ams at everyone who comes in with a Capitalized name. There are glorified fancy ‘serves’ that are long enough for me to go get my own drink, drink it, and wash the cup afterwards. It’s living the dream. I used to live in the dream. It was great fun, but I’m certain now that I couldn’t go back. It’s too much fake for me.
Blog etiquette is something else that is different and has very extreme forms. One is kind conversation in response to posts. I tend to get the most of this kind of protocol. It’s respectful and real. Then there is raw sexual energy; usually from pictures. Lastly I’ve seen the horrible comments of some blogs where etiquette is forgotten completely.
I think it would be nice to have an established set of rules for treating people online. I wish there were a way to remind people when they cross those lines. It aggravates me when I see disrespect online. It’s like people aren’t real and so they don’t have to be treated like human beings? I just don’t get it.
Now what about commenting on blogs. Do you feel that every blog post should be commented on? Do you enjoy comments and feel like you aren’t good at blogging if you don’t get comments? What about links? If someone links to you do you have a problem with it if they never comment on your blog after that?
–luna
Feeling a Bit Off
I’m not really sure why I feel this way today. I’m 5 days into my vacation and I’m feeling stir crazy, easily edgy and not submissive at all. Master has about had it. I gave him one of those half assed blow jobs and I know he wants a decent one soon. I’ve been neglecting him since my period started and I know that I could have at least provided him with some comfort.
Then we have my exercise program; which is working! I’ve not missed a single day of exercise and I’ve even bumped it up to 3 of 4 miles in the Walk Away The Pounds DVD I have. It’s great. I figure I’ll get to 4 miles in a few weeks and can then boast that I have done 12 miles a week!
Weighing in wasn’t so hot but I was on my period so I don’t like to count it. I was up 2 lbs from last week. Hopefully this next weigh in will be better.
Pounds lost since last week: +2
Pounds to lose before Shibaricon 2009: 52
–luna
Thursday Question #36: Religion
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
What role does religion play in your life? How does it work within your dynamic?
Lightning Harness by Midori
Dreams of Simple Living
I’ve been dreaming of ways I can live more simply and more green. I have a lot of hopes in mind of things that will make my submission involve more homemade products, homemade cooking, and recycling projects. I’ve got this pull to be more molly homemaker-like. I read a blog for simple living that has really got my attention. The blog is Down To Earth. It’s written by an Australian woman that has a a homestead where she lives simply. From stockpiling and sewing, to water collection and gardening. She has her own chickens too! I love reading it because I find pieces of it that I could turn into my own way of living. It will be a slow process but Master is encouraging of anything I find that would enhance our lives.
One of the things I’ve decided to try doing is knitting dishclothes. I’ve never knitted before so picking up needles and a tutorial was fun. I finished my first dishcloth today. It’s larger than I want them ultimately so this one may end up in the bathroom as a washcloth. I’ve had fun doing it and plan on making more in the near future. I’ve also found an interesting tutorial on a dish scrubber too. I’m going to try this one yet this week.
More cleaning is planned for tomorrow while Master is working along with some crafting. I found my whole box of craft things and now I have the itch to get back into it now that the internet really has weakened its hold on me. Right now I want to be a homemaker. I want to learn to knit and crochet and sew. I’d like to get better at baking and preparing home cooked meals. Then I’d still like to read up on canning and learn how to do some of my own.
I found a basic crocheted lap quilt I started over 8 years ago that perhaps I can finish if I can find more yarn in a similar dye lot for it. I think I would really love to have homemade things around the house again. I can cross stitch and embroider. I’d like to get back into doing that again. There is nothing home-y around the house and I think that would really content me.
One of the things that I’d like to do but Master isn’t that forgiving is powering off all the computers at night. He leaves the servers running but I’m never really sure why. They aren’t doing anything at night usually. Saving energy just isn’t in the cards for us yet. I’m sure I’ll find other ways to enhance my submission and home living.
–luna
Protected: Letter to Master 5-26-08
Spanking Sex
“Master can we have spanking sex tonight?” I question. It’s what I call it when we blend pain and sex. Generally they go together but I wanted a bit more pain than usual so that’s how I ask for it.
“I’m sure we can manage something,” he replies with a wicked grin.
The preliminaries are hotter than they have been recently. We kiss deeply and I can’t help but touch him all over. I nibble on his neck and nipples and then back up, whispering in his ear my desires and lust. Nasty talk drives him wild. I touch his cock and tease him. “You like it when I stroke it, don’t you?” “You want me to badly, I can feel it.” “You are so hard!”
He’s caressing me all over too and thankfully leaving my tender nipples alone he dives down to my puss and starts tugging on the fat mound. He tugs it softly at first and then harder, so hard that it makes me groan and squeeze my eyes shut in that painful surrender. He asks if it’s too hard. I’m hoping the look on my face says no, dear god no! Master continues to squeeze and pull on my pussy lips and mound. I’m so thankful that I can love the feel of it and moan with lust.
He fingers my clit for awhile, teasing me up to a frenzy and then we lay head to feet and he sucks and nibbles on my inner thighs, moving closer to my mound. Those first slow laps always make me nervous that I’m not going to be clean enough or smell good… I’m just like that. Just after a bath I knew I’d be fine. He’s so expert with his tongue he can drive me so wild and it wasn’t long before I was trembling.
My hands stroking his cock slowed. “Don’t you dare fucking stop slut.”
“Yes Master, I’m sorry Master.”
I’m rocking into him and stroking at the same time. He comes back up and continues fingering me, driving me closer to orgasm.
“Do you want to come or do you want my cock.”
“I want your cock Master, please fuck me Master.”
“How do you want it slut?”
“On all fours Master, I want to feel you pounding into me, please Master fuck me like that please?”
We are in position and as he guides himself into me I push back, wanting to feel all of him but he grabs my hips.
“You fucking slut, your eager aren’t you?”
“Oh yes Master, fuck me please?”
He rocks a few times into me and then impales himself deep. The fucking that ensues is rough and hard, he’s spanking my thighs and ass over and over. I’m trembling and screaming at him to keep going, take me deeper. It’s so good that mix of pain and pleasure.
He rakes his nails down my back and I feel almost a primal growl exit my throat. Oh yes, do that again I think, and he does. Harder, fiercer I can feel the lines burning after his nails have stopped. I can feel the sharp strikes on my ass again. It’s so good.
Then he reaches up and grabs my ponytail and pulls my head up and back. He fucks me harder like that and it sets me into a headspace immediately. He knows that. I feel so pliable and willing, the slut in me unleashed. He pulls harder and I arch up to compensate for the pull.
This dance goes on for awhile, my body taking it all in and his pleasure evident. Harder, fiercer and so deliciously painful. He stops and pulls out to play with my clit again, oh so delicious as he brings me closer yet again, I’m practically screaming my pleasure to the room’s echo.
He stops abruptly and fucks me some more, faster and harder than before, the spanking more rampant, the scratching heavenly. He takes my pony tail again and pulls really hard and I can feel him getting closer to his orgasm. His breathing ragged he takes his pleasure of me. I can feel him come hot and hard in me.
Collapsing I feel content and floaty.
“I’m not going to make you come, slut, so that you can enjoy this feeling”
I want to voice a thank you, but the words don’t come, I’m still moaning and sighing.
“Clean my cock, whore.”
I clean it well and don’t want to let go of it, that sword of pleasure I love so much. But the world continues and Master’s next request is the predictable.
“Go make my coffee please.”
And I obey.
Blogathon 2008 Up in the Air
I have participated in a 24 hour blogathon the past 3 years. I look forward to raising money for an alt lifestyle charity and getting support for the things that matter most to me. I’ve been planning Blogathon 2008 stuff for a couple months; from thinking of topic ideas, sponsor incentives and prizes I could give out to how to stay up that long and asking for the day after off from work.
I looked at the Blogathon website the other day and it appears the lead organizer needs to take a year off for personal reasons. If people don’t step up then there won’t be a blogathon this year. I don’t know if I really like that. I’m sure I’m not the only one voicing the desire for a day of mad blogging to raise money for good causes.
If the official event does not get off the ground (which I won’t know until closer to July when it is scheduled) then I’m thinking of holding my own charity event for BDSM bloggers. It wouldn’t be as organized but it could hold our voice and we could support some good causes. Causes like the National Leather Association Domestic Violence Project, the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, Twentieth Century Relationships, LGBTA rights and so many other lifestyle related causes. Over the 3 years I’ve done Blogathon I’ve raised over $800. I’d like to do so much more than that.
What does everyone think of a BDSM/kinky blogathon? Would you stand up, raise money and blog for 24 hours (every 30 minutes) to support those causes? Would you join me by sponsoring my blog if I do a thon this year?
–luna
Thursday Question #35: Scariest Toy
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
What is the scariest toy in the toybox? What do you wish would just get lost accidentally?
Preparations for Vacation
Starting tomorrow evening I have vacation for the entire week next week. In my dreams I am Master’s submissive at his beck and call all week. That’s not very realistic for us as he has to continue working every day except Memorial Day. And so my plans are slightly altered.
I’m going to do a lot of cleaning. I’ve let this house get horribly filthy and so I want to get back to basic cleaning levels and not the tornado/pig sty that we currently live in. I’ve always wanted to declutter more because I feel that the less I have the more likely I’m not going to have as big of a mess. There are only the two of us after all. We are both to blame. Neither of us are really clean freaks. It’s more of a lived in look.
Part of my desire to get this house in order is that we’d like to move this summer. If any of you can recall we tried last year and the money fell through. Well this year we have enough right now for a deposit on a new place with a tentative budget for when we move. We are in a better place now and I think if we play our cards right we could be moving by the end of this summer. One day this vacation week I want to be apartment hunting. Something I dread. I’m very much a look at one place and love it girl. I hate hunting around.
I’m going to work harder to be more proactive with my service to Master and I’m going to polish up my rules a bit. I’ve been slacking and he’s not said anything yet but I want to pick it up before he does more than notice it.
On the diet and exercise front… the exercise is going great. I’m sure it’s the motivation/punishment keeping me to my plan but anything that works right? The diet is kinda hit or miss. There are days I’m great and days I’m not so great. I’ll feel better about myself gradually and I know that I can progress further and achieve my goals.
–luna
Pounds lost since last week: 0
Goal by Shibaricon 2009: 50 lbs
Keeping It Real: Fakers and Wannabe Lifestylers
So you’ve had a pretty nice talk with someone on chat and then they say something that doesn’t jibe with you. Does it lead you straight to think that this person is a wannabe? How do you know? There are several times that I’ve had to step back and ask myself is this person just new or are they an online pretender?
I’ve read several blogs that turned out not to be real lifestylers. They spun a good tale, but there were red flags here and there. People being bound way too long, unreal positions or situations that just didn’t set well for SSC or RACK beliefs. Their story was one to ‘safely’ explore what may have been a dark dream that would never be realized.
We can see fakers and wannabes in munch groups too. Some of them never commit to coming to a munch, they lurk because they want to feel like they belong but deep inside they know they can’t. Then there are wannabes that just don’t have the guts to make it real for them.
What is real anyhow? How real do you have to be before you are real? There’s no guide stick really. No valid one anyhow. The only thing we have is the judgment of others. You could be in this lifestyle part time but because someone else feels that you have to see your partner every weekend and play hard and fast all the time that you aren’t real, that you are a faker or wanna be. Other will say that you can only be real if you are 24/7 live in and follow a strict order of things. To them, anything else is fake.
The point I’m trying to make is that you are as real as you can be. If your only ability to explore your desires is online chat rooms then do it. The real people are those that feel real inside. If you have a story to tell, tell the truth. Keep the fantasy out of it.
Wannabes are another matter. They are good at pulling the fleece over your eyes. They pretend really well. The dangerous ones can really do some damage to those newbies that are longing for something to cling to. If those of us who feel real, tell it real then those newbies will have something solid to stand on.
It’s important that we help newbies learn about each of our unique lives and why each relationship is different. I try very hard here to tell the real story of my life as Master’s submissive. I’ve never gotten a harsh comment about how I’m fake or a wannabe or I’m not really living it. I hope I never get it.
Let’s take a moment to support all of our friends out there that are living it, in whatever capacity they can. Long Distance, occasional partners, poly, Master/slave, single or owned we all find a voice to our kinky selves. Keep it true to yourselves.
–luna
Protected: Letter to Master 5-18-08
Famous Names Meme
ROCK STAR NAME: (first pet, current car): Fivel Cavalier
GANGSTA NAME: (favorite ice cream flavor, favorite kind of shoe): Chocolate Peanut Butter Platforms
HIPPY NAME: (what you ate for breakfast, favorite tree): Jimmy Dean Palm
SOAP OPERA NAME: (middle name, city where you were born): Lynn Des Moines
STAR WARS NAME: (the first 3 letters of your last name, first 2 of your first name): Nobje
SUPERHERO NAME: (favorite color, favorite drink): Purple Diet Dr. Pepper
NASCAR NAME: (the first names of your grandfathers/grandmothers): Raymond Phyllis
STRIPPER NAME: (the name of your favorite perfume/cologne/scent, favorite candy): XS Reeses
TV WEATHER ANCHOR NAME: (Your 4th grade teacher’s last name, a city that starts with the same letter): Duke Denver
SPY NAME: (your favorite season/holiday, flower): Fall Daisy
CARTOON NAME: (favorite fruit, article of clothing you’re wearing right now): Strawberry Polo
Reliving Childhood
When I was 13 I listened to New Kids all the time. I was a hard core fan. I had the sheets set, my 4 walls were covered in posters, magazine pictures and a great big wall tarp with their images emblazoned on it. (I might still have that in my keepsake box.) Today they sang again on stage after 15 years apart. I am a happy girl. I’m silly and giddy, smiling and thinking fantastic things about how innocent my childhood was then. Master said he’s going to get tired of the New Kids really fast. Hopefully I can get a mp3 player and add all the NKOTB songs I want and he’ll just watch me sing them in silence.
Their new single is pretty good and I can’t wait for their album to be released so that I can hear how well they work together after so long. Is anyone else as excited as I am?
My carpal tunnel flared up this week and so I’ve had to put off giving Master oral sex all week and I’ve actually been in the mood! The pain has been so bad that I’ve wanted to not allow anyone or anything touch me. The pain meds have helped and the anti-inflammatory meds are working. He’s anxious for when my wrists heal enough for me to do him right and I’d love for that to be tonight. We’ll have to see where the evening takes me.
–luna
New Kids on the Today Show!
Thursday Question #34: Getting Too Old for BDSM
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like. If you’d like to participate in the discussion please leave a comment on this post, send me an email or post the response on your own blog!
Is there an age where you should consider retiring from BDSM activities? Is there an age that you shouldn’t play at public events any more? Can you get too old for the Lifestyle?
Weight Loss Report for 5-14-08
As an incentive to see how I’m doing I’ve readded a ticker to my sidebar. You can watch how I progress to my goal for Shibaricon next year. I hope to be 50 lbs+ lighter by then. Here’s to good progress and positive results!
I’ve been exercising as scheduled with Master’s help. The access to the computer is probably having a huge impact on it. No exercise, no computer. Simple as that. I’ve been doing Walk Away The Pounds. I have a few of the workouts and the one I’m tackling now is the 4 mile express super challenge. I can do 2 miles (30 mins). I’d like to move it up to 3 miles next week. We’ll have to see. I’m feeling less exhausted after the workout and sweating more. Hopefully the scale will start to show a change soon.
Eating has been good. I bought healthy food to eat and guess what? I’m eating it! The catch is that Master is too! Yay! He’s going to be trim and sexier before I am but the bonus will be that I won’t be far behind. We will be one hot couple!
Several times I have started separate weight loss journals without success. I really don’t know why I felt the need to separate it from my life here. Everything else of my life is mixed in so taking parts out was actually really difficult.
–luna
No scale progress to report yet.
Pounds lost since last week: 0
Pounds to lose by Shibaricon 2009: 50
NKOTB's First Single in Reunion: "Summertime"
Yay, it’s out and I have it! Enjoy the first single from NKOTB since they got back together!