Hardcore Romance asked the following questions on his blog and it made me really try to discern the difference for myself.
Do you like being a good girl or do you like being called a good girl?
Do you like being a bad girl and getting a spanking in order to make you a good girl?
I love being called a good girl. I love the sweet sensation that comes over me when Master has praised me just that way. He could say thank you or any other variety of praises and it wouldn’t affect me like “good girl” does. I think it first had to do with just being good and in my first D/s relationship. It’s something I loved to hear and tried my hardest just to hear it.
I was and am a good girl. I don’t ascribe to the second train of thought of being a bad girl to get the spanking to become a good girl. I’d rather my spankings were of the yummy variety. I hate punishment and will avoid the cane at all costs. Maybe it is because I’m a masochist that I’d rather my pain be for pleasure than for being bad.
More than likely it’s just because I like being good. I like making sure Master is happy and proud of me.