Here is my list of newly discovered blogs within the BDSM blogosphere! I have found them very interesting and enjoyable to read. I hope you will enjoy them and feel free to leave a comment or two. You just may find a new favorite blog!
Fit to be Tied
The Writings of a Deviant Mind
Art Through Service
Beauty in Darkness: the history of BDSM
Down on My Knees
I’ve you’ve left a comment to a post in the past 14 days, I’ve missed it until today! I’m so sorry. For some reason the spam catcher put them there, so when I was going through it to delete the actual spam I saw all the wonderful gifts from you!
I’ve read each one of them and while I can’t comment on all of them, please know I have seen them and will be watching the spam box more diligently!
–luna
I have had the mother of all stressful days today. I actually spent the morning at work in a conference room crying because I was at my breaking point. My boss was on the way to do damage control and help me out. He’s such a great guy and seems to understand my personality perfectly. He said as soon as he got the email the night before he knew how I’d react and wanted to help out. I was an emotional wreck.
See, the challenge in my character is that I take my job very seriously and personally. When something goes wrong and they come to me first. I go into ‘fix-it’ mode. I couldn’t fix this quite as fast and I panicked, I got defensive over my position and words collided.
Now on Thursday when this all started going down I came home a bundle of nerves and did something I’ve only asked for on a couple of occasions. I asked Master for a spanking. I wanted to release the frustration, the anger, the hurt, the confusion, the defensiveness, you name it I wanted it gone. I knew that the typical soak in the tub was not going to help me this time. He obliged happily. Any chance to spank me he’ll take and told me that he’d help me out anytime I needed it.
We went into the bedroom so that I could lie down and relax and he started in slow. My only thought then was I just wanted him to wail into me, but also knew that I wanted a decent duration one and immediate force was not condusive to that. I enjoyed the sensation as my buzzing nerves slowly began to unravel and I started feeling better. Tears fell a little but I was silent. The pain got pretty intense for a bit and it was performing the opposite of what I needed and I was tensing up so I asked him if he could back down again. Thankfully he did.
When it was all done, I still laid there and talked to him about it and while he may not have thought I had calmed down, I sure felt better.
Friday it all came crashing back. My boss said some things that made me shake my head because I have heard them from Master over and over. “There are things you can’t control. Your personality doesn’t like that. You want to have control over every aspect of your work. When something happens that you can’t control you worry, get defensive and irrational. Try this next time something happens. Ask yourself if this is something you can control. If you say no, then back away for a bit and reflect. Handle it differently. It’s not going anywhere since you can’t control it anyway. ”
The rest of the day went okay. I don’t feel I got a lot accomplished but Friday ended and I didn’t feel as stressed out. Master took me out to dinner and I had some terriyaki stir fry. Yum! When we got him I went straight to bed.
Thank you Master for caring for me so much to see what my needs are and be there for me. I will love you always.
–luna
“Rules: Post the explanation of where your username came from. Then tag TEN users whose explanations you’d like to hear. If you are tagged post the explanation to your page.”
The username in question is my LJ username of luna_km. It’s pretty self explanatory, I think. My scene name is luna and my Master’s scene name initials are KM. 
I’m supposed to tag ten people, but I don’t like to tag, so if you want to let us know where your username, nick came from… feel free!
–luna
All of you talented avatar designers out there….
I’m looking for an avatar to use for my Thursday Question series. The image I currently use is too large. I’d like a 100×100 icon/avatar. Nothing fancy. It just has to say “Thursday Question” and have some sort of nice looking background.
I’d love to see what you can come up with!
–luna
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like.
This will be a regular weekly addition to the site, come back often and see what people have to say!
This week’s question:
How has BDSM enhanced your relationship?
From Submissive Journal Prompts: Do you work outside the home? How does that affect your dynamic? What do you do to define your work mindset from your submissive one?
Obviously if you have ever read my blog then you know that I work outside the home every day. I work in an office setting and leave before Master gets up and come home with only 6 hours before bedtime again. It’s pretty hard to get all that I want to get squeezed into the evening. Master works here at home and I know that he’s got the same type of issues to separate work from home life. What’s been harder has been changing my mindset from one of work work work to submissiveness. I just haven’t gotten that straightened out yet.
Several things affect the dynamic with me working away from home and Master working at home. First our time together is less, so the time we do has to be more powerful. I’m not saying that every single second has to be special but when we do spend time together it has to mean something. Of course everyone could say that and most likely deals with more issues and daily challenges than we do.
Secondly I have a hard time separating my work life from home life. We’ve been working on it for awhile now. I do have a relaxing plan for when I get home. I’ve not done it in awhile, for some reason I’ve done okay separating myself. Maybe it’s the new workout and diet that has me more focused. Hopefully I will stay that way.
Lastly I take longer to get in the mood, any mood that would be nice for Master to live with. Getting into my submissive mindset is more about closing off all the stuff in my mind; the worries and stress, chores, friends, life in general. I just can’t figure out how to shut it off and focus on Master only.
–luna
Yesterday was supposed to be full of juicy details that I was going to share with you all. Well, there isn’t anything to tell. Things just didn’t work out the way we wanted them to.
I am again in my funk of disinterest in sex. I know I know. How can that be? I guess I’m not the cock hungry slut he wants all the time. I don’t know if I can be. I do know that I get better every time we talk about it. I just wish we didn’t have to get to that point before it is brought up. I feel so bad that he gets so desperate to fix something that really isn’t broken. I’m just not as sexual as I used to be. I don’t masturbate, I don’t dream. I don’t watch porn or read naughty stories. It doesn’t really excite me like it used to.
It’s not that I don’t love Master to pieces and I know I want him with my always. He’s the best sex I’ve ever had, no doubt about that. Why would I be so anticlimactic? Anti-sex? It’s just so weird. I’ll get it back. I always do after the talks we have. The one we had last night really hit home and I know that I will be working towards a better sexual life.
Now that’s not to say that we don’t have some amazing sex right now; it’s just kinda infrequent. Like the sex we just had, and the sex last night. It was great. But it’s been a good 4 days before that since I showed any interest in sex. It’s very frustrating to Master and aggravating for myself.
I don’t know. It ebbs and flows. One day I’m a horny devil, the next I’m a prude. What’s with that?
–luna
This has been one of the hardest weeks for me; not only am I fighting to get back into a healthy diet and exercise program but I’ve been mad busy at work and Master is requesting more of my time at home. I feel torn in three and I want to be every which way, I really do!
Working on dieting again has given me hope with a bit of dispair. I weighed in today, something I haven’t done in weeks. I was shocked and dismayed. I have to work hard to get back down to where I was so that progress can be seen. I hate backpedaling but I have got to try to get back on the right way. It’s so hard, but with Master as my cheerleader I will be ready for anything.
This weekend’s munch is something of a big one. We will be dicussing the future of the munch group and what people want or expect out of it. I have only received 2 RSVPs so it’s looking bleak. We’ll be there no matter what; I just hope that our dreams for the future of the group will become reality.
I’ve been relocated in the building I work in. I feel like they shoved me in a corner to get me out of the way. I guess when I look around I have vendors from all over in this little room. It could be called the vendor room. Maybe I should feel more at home. I think it will just take time.
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Master wants to play hard this weekend. I’m sure I can do it. It’s been awhile since we have played they way he wants to and I will do my best to be in the right mindset. (Just after my nap, boy am I tired.) He wants me to wear my corset for awhile this weekend and he wants to play rough. He’s shared a few vivid dreams with me and I’m willing to entertain them
Here’s to a busy and fun weekend!
–luna
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at luna’s Journey. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like.
This will be a regular weekly addition to the site, come back often and see what people have to say!
This week’s question:
What outward symbols of your commitment do you have?
A bout of depression Monday night has me working on my diet again. I just couldn’t take the fact that I was losing weight and then stopped and now I just have to face that the diet wagon is right in front of me again. I’ve joined SparkPeople.com to see how that support/community goes. I’ve not had a diet community since the fiasco with TIO.
I’ve asked Master to be my personal cheerleader and so far he’s doing a fantastic job. He’s posted comments to my blog posts and guest book and he’s very positive. It’s encouraging that I might actually do this. I do have some challenges ahead; some I have to battle immediately or I will pay for them later. Foremost of those is exercise, or my lack thereof. I will be working out on Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday. I have strength training and cardio to do those days. Hopefully with the weather nice I can walk for the cardio and there is my toning video for the strength training. It’s all there for me, I just have to do it.
I have to face how much I eat each day and that’s a hard part too, because I don’t want to write it down. Someone on the forums of SparkPeople.com said that What you bite; you write. I’m going to give that a go.
The diet blog Thick N Thin is dying if not already dead. I think I will use the SP blog for my diet blog as well as commenting here and there about my progress if you are interested. I have a goal of 31 lbs (10%) by year’s end. I’m hoping for 1 lb this week. Problem is I don’t have a scale that will weigh me until I’m under 300, so it will be awhile until I know if I’ve lost weight, but I do have a tap measure! I will keep track of my inches so if I go down, I know that I’m at least toning if not losing in the process.
Master and I are pretty happy lately (besides my weight issue). I can’t help but smile at him whenever I can. He’s great. I’m so lucky he picked me to be his girl. Although any girl would be hard pressed to find a man as wonderful as he is. I’ll never let him go.
–luna
Master has agreed to let me come up with writing assignment topics for my weekly assignments on my rules list. I’ve started a mental list and will make an actual list this weekend probably. Of course I’m going to be able to come up with some, but I think that those that read my blog can also come up with some. What sorts of topics have you had to write for your dominant?
I’m sitting here in my new butt plug; if you missed it, here’s what it looks like . I have the middle one. It’s awesome! I’ve been looking for a long time for one that will stay in while I move around and do stuff, it’s comfortable and I think that with training I can wear this one for a longer time. I’m pushing 40 mins right now. I know Master’s goal is an hour or more when he wants to. I like the idea that I’m pleasing him and I know that anal play will be easier if I can relax by ass more.
I’m ready to be more, step up and change again. I’m ready to change myself. I have let my diet go, I have not exercised in a long time. I’m going to try to get back in the game. I was so much happier with myself when I was making a difference in me. I’m so hungry at work and then when I come home I pig out or like tonight I didn’t eat much at all. I hate this.
It’s almost official, I am doing the Blogathon this year. Mija has volunteered to do the 4 hours I need someone to guest blog so that I don’t get thrown out. I will be blogging for The National Leather Association-International’s Domestic Violence Project. I hope everyone will consider pledging at least $1 to my cause. I’ve successfully completed 2 Blogathons, I won’t let anyone down. Your pledge is as good as gold. Please watch this space as I prepare to blog for a cause that means a lot to me.
–luna
Dear Master,
We have had a wonderful weekend! I think that with all the sluttiness that I’ve exuded from all my pores that you are one content Master, am I right? Great thing is you have more planned when I have recuperated. It’s so great to feel free and expressive. I’ve a little uptight lately… err… a long time, haven’t I?
Well so let’s hope that I have changed a bit because I enjoy when you are happy. I get more affection when you are– see the connection now! I love you and know that with every single step I feel closer to you, every change in my manner… or yours.
I do miss having weekly writing assignments, Master. Even if you can’t think of topics yourself I’m sure there is something I could write about; it is one of my rules and I guess I feel that I’m letting that one go as I am not assigned anything week after week. Not that I want to create my own work, but maybe I can come up with a list of topics I’d like to talk about and have you approve them?
I’m so happy to be able to do the Blogathon this year. I am just waiting for the website to update so that I can register for this year. I hope to raise a lot of money like last year. Now I’m sure I can come up with topics to write about for it, no problem. Mija is great to volunteer to help me during the time I will be away for the munch. This should definitely be a good ‘thon!
I love you Master
me
Last night I had one of the worst orgasm headaches I have ever had. I’ve had them previously but they were just a dull ache at the time of orgasm and faded minutes later. This one was huge, almost migraine material. The orgasm was great until the headache hit and the afterglow pleasure was gone immediately. This is what I found about sex headaches:
Sex headaches often start as a dull ache on both sides of the head. The pain may intensify as sexual excitement increases.
In other cases, sex headaches appear suddenly during orgasm. You may feel severe pain around or behind your eyes. Some people describe the pain as pulsing, throbbing or a sudden blow to the head. The pain may get worse when you move.
Most sex headaches last a few minutes. Others may linger for a few hours. — Mayo Clinic
Now there are 3 types of sex headaches and I commonly have one that hurts but doesn’t affect my activity after orgasm and it generally goes away after a few minutes and a glass of water.
The one I had last night was explosive, and they even have one called that. Here’s what about.com has to say about sudden onset coital headaches:
Sudden onset: This pattern applies in 70% of coital headaches, and begins just before, during, or immediately after orgasm. The headache is severe, usually throbbing, and may build over minutes or be explosive. Average duration is several hours.
It was so bad last night that reading this morning it sounds like I could have have 2 types of headaches at once. The other type of headache came after a few minutes of suffering the other one, and caused nause and sensitivity to light and sound.
I went straight to bed, which worried and saddened Master because he has a hot sexy blowjob coming that I was actually in the mood for pre-headache. He’ll get that today since I feel better.
–luna
PS: I am still looking for a Blogathon partner to fill in during the time that need to attend the munch I run. It would be for 4 hours between 6pm and 10pm CDT. If anyone is interested in posting every half hour for those hours on my blog please let me know. I won’t sign up for the Blogathon to raise money for charity if I can’t find someone to chip in with me.
The charity I have picked is the National Leather Association Domestic Violence Project. You can see their webpage here: NLA-I DVP
Please help me get all set up in the Blogathon, I raised almost $500 for my charity of choice last year.
Every week there will be a BDSM question posed to readers here at Luna’s Lessons. Feel free to answer it as candidly as you’d like.
This will be a regular weekly addition to the site, come back often and see what people have to say!
This week’s question:
How would you define your service? Has this developed over time?
Master has this very adorable behavior that I just have to smile about. When Master is feeling all lovable and wants to give me attention without actually giving me attention he will wink at me. It’s one of those “I’m thinking of you baby, just thought you should know” kind of winks. I love it. Whenever he does it I blush and smile at him.
It’s his little way of reassuring me and loving me even if the crowd is too loud or the moment isn’t right for him to say so. When we first were together he’d wink at me a lot. I think he just loved to see me blush. Me and my rosy cheeks…
I’m feeling really fulfilled at work and it’s a wonderful feeling. I work hard everyday, I do something I enjoy and I’m learning things. Super great!
_______
I just looked at the Blogathon website where I’ve been a participant the past 2 years. The next Blogathon is next month on the 28th. I’m trying to decide if I want to participate this year and if so I think I’d like to bring in a guest blogger for the time frame that I will be at my monthly munch. If anyone is interested in being my guest blogger for about 4 hours the evening of the 28th, please let me know. This will help me decide if I will participate. Also, any suggestions on charities to blog for would be great too.
Last year I blogged for ITCR and raised $474.50 and the year before that for NCSF and raised $65.
–luna
So, you’ve happened upon this blog and it looks interesting, it has a large archive you can’t even imagine combing through but you wonder who in the world this luna is, right?
You’ve come to the right place, because I am she. I’m now almost 30, living in my first real D/s relationship. I’m learning and growing as a submissive, pleasing Master whenever I get the chance and finding challenges and turmoil within myself at every turn. We live in small town Iowa where Master freelances web development and I work in an office environment.
A regular day for me is getting up at the butt crack of dawn to go to work, come home and love my Master for the 6 or so hours I have before I go to bed to do it all over again. I fill my free time with housework, website work and blogging. Of these I have at least 4 websites that I’m always working on and nearly that many blogs. A few of which have gone defunct but not out of a lack of desire. Time is always the greatest factor. You can find all these sites in the sidebar.
I began getting curious about my sexual desires during my marriage where they were never entertained. The first time I was spanked it was a spur of the moment during sex and he didn’t want to do it again when I asked him to. I really liked it. Not just for the ‘during sex’ of it, but because that bit of pain turned me on. I wanted more.
I perused websites and chat rooms. I absorbed all I could in terms of good and bad advice and articles. I got to know the online populous and the wonderful people known as HNGs and brats. There were others that were real and I clung to them as my only source of real connection to what might be what I love and enjoy someday.
I left my husband when my desire to be kinky got to much for me to keep quiet. He wasn’t interested. It was a rocky break up but I’m over it now and hopefully he will move on someday too. I couldn’t have been his only reason for living.
My love is Master, who came all the way from England after talking with me online for over a year. He arrived on chilly October day and this will be his 3rd year with me. We learn slowly and carefully everything we want to be to each other and are living this life on our terms. We are not copying anyone or anything. A lot of what we do may be different than what is expected in these circles bu tit works for us. It is our harmony.
I am not a natural submissive. It has been a hard road to travel. I have a lot of ghosts in my closet and monsters under my bed to say that I can be the perfect person I seem to see in a lot of submissive blogs I read. Of course it’s only the snapshot that you get to see, not the whole picture.
I try to be honest and frank in my blog here. You won’t get any sugar coating and nothing is fake. I tell it like it is, no matter how wrong it may seem for you, this is my life and I won’t be interrupted by some silly thoughts that I’m not normal or that what I do or how I act isn’t submissive. I am submissive because I choose to be and that’s good enough for me.
Welcome to my blog, enjoy the trip and trust me… you are going to want to dig into those archives someday.
–luna
The Thursday Question last week was: “What has been the hardest thing for you to accept in your Dominance/submission?”
No one answered the question but I thought that this would make an excellent topic for today’s post.
The hardest thing for me to accept has been that I am not in control of a lot of things. It’s one of the basic things that every submissive has to come to terms with and not every submissive takes to easily. Before I choose this lifestyle I was in charge of everything. My past relationship I was calling all the shots but was absolutely miserable.
I hated that the other never made any decisions, was whiny when I asked him to do something that would be considered simple… like calling the phone company when we experienced problems. *sigh* But I’m not about to rehash the past. My life now is great and that’s what I’m dwelling on.
When I first met Master I have to admit that the release of control was more a game to me. I could do it for short stints and play but didn’t really have a clue how life was going to be outside the bedroom. Thankfully most of what we had in the beginning was bedroom D/s. We slowly went into firming the roles outside the bedroom and that’s where the struggle came in.
If you’ve been reading and following my story for awhile now you can see the rocky places we’ve been, but also see the progress in making it to where I know that I want to be. I never imagined that I would be in my permanent collar and continuing to learn and grow; to have desires and dreams for more release of control from me and I live for what Master has in store for our future.
The first thing I gave up control over I think was masturbation and orgasms. It seemed easy then and it seems easy now. He makes me happy and gives me so much pleasure that I couldn’t ask for more.
Then I started asking for more rules and behavior adjustments. I started to want to be molded into a submissive worthy of him. We’ve learned so much from each other. Our relationship isn’t like any other we know but it’s just right for us.
The hardest thing for me has been the most fulfilling. I’m in love with it all. It’s so hard, so very challenging. One day I’ll get it right. And if I don’t I will still try my best.
I may not have fully accepted the release of control but I’m working on it. Master knows me so well now that none of this will be a surprise; he even guessed my answer before I told him.
–luna
Dear Master,
Through a very active week and a full weekend I think we have been able to connect more often than recently. I’m so happy that you took the time out to give me the spanking I requested. I knew it would shift my mood to something more pleasing and the result was to both of our liking. My butt is still sore. Your spontaneous ropework was great fun too. I really do hope that you continue to improve and develop your skills with rope. I love the feeling of being bound and love the beauty of it and the marks it leaves.
The talks we’ve had lately of dreams and the future are exciting and scary. There are a lot of positive things that could come out of this, but there are a lot of difficult challenges ahead as well. I really hope that what we see as the possible future is feasible when brought to a wider audience.
I kinda miss the writing assignments I had when we first started my new rules. Now I know that it’s hard to come up with topics but the chance to write and think through topics is very cathartic for me. If you wish me to come up with the topics just so that I have topics each week I’d be willing.
We both know I had a rough Saturday. I can’t explain all of what I was going through mentally and emotionally. Thank you for not giving up and having that huge fount of patience for my attitude. The evil eye I got on occasion was more than enough to know I was not toeing the line.
–luna