luna wishes you all a wonderful day and blessed sleep. I thank you all for following me as I raised money for a cause that’s near and dear to me. The Institute for 21st Century Relationships will continue to bring awareness and education to the public about alternative loving consensual relationships because of your help. Whether through sponsorships, pimping me on your own blog, or cheering me on here, it has all helped and may one day, bring about acceptance and change. Thank you so much.

Total raised at the end of the 24 HR Blogathon: $474.50

Still want to pledge? You can for a few days after the event. There is still time!

–luna

I would love to thank each and every one of my sponsors individually, but lack of wakefullness hinders that right now. This is my big hug of thanks for supporting me and giving me something worth blogging for; a cause and a pull. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

–luna

PS: If you would like to still sponsor, Blogathon.org leaves sponsorship open for 2 days after the event to allow post sponsors. It’s not too late! Just click the pledge now link on the left.

Leather and Roses is one of my favorite BDSM resource sites. I have never seen so many essays all in one place! If you are curious or a seasoned BDSM er, you should check it out. You won’t be sorry.

–luna

I’m feeling fatigue set in. It’s harder and harder to write proper posts. I feel good about the information that I have provided today. I hope that it has opened some minds. Just a bit more and this year’s Blogathon is over.

–luna

What I like best about my life is that I am so loved and cared for by a wonderful man. My Dominant partner moved from the UK to be with me forever and I couldn’t be happier. He changed his life for little ol’ me! Watching him adapt to life in the US has been interesting; from calling pants trousers and underpants pants I just had to chuckle till I got used to it. I’ve seen him go through what I call UK withdrawls where he just misses home badly but he says he’s so in love with me and would never leave me. Now that’s commitment.

I never thought I’d be so happy. I never thought that my life would be so full of love. He is my life and my world.

–luna

Yes, I’m getting so very tired. I feel out of energy, out of original thoughts and out of topics. I’m not sure what else to write about for the remaining time…. maybe I should search for fun faqs or something….

–luna

I’m blogging for the Institute for 21st Century Relationships.

The Institute was founded at the dawn of the new millennium (July 2000) to help people create lasting intimate relationships that will work in our present world. We are a research and educational organization, guided by distinguished researchers, academics, clinicians, and other professionals, and devoted to studying and educating the public about the various new forms of intimate relationships being chosen in today’s world. We are also dedicated to supporting the proposition that competent adults have a basic human right to choose for themselves the form their intimate relationship should take, and to be given education and support to help them make that choice work for them.

Looking at all the evidence, our founders couldn’t avoid concluding that a “one size fits all” institution whose present conception is largely based on the fiction of medieval troubadours – i.e., monogamous legal marriage – is proving increasingly ill suited for many completely respectable and responsible people today.

We believe the proven cost in human distress, endangered children, broken homes, and social upheaval inherent in a reflexive demand for “monolithic monogamy” has simply become too high to bear.

For some people pain is pleasurable. For me it certainly is. I’m terrible at discussing the how’s and whys so I’m defering to an essay from Pyschology Today:

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I had 5 mins before it was time to post again. Master stood beside me in wait.

“Yes Master?”

“Nothing, I’m just waiting for some attention.”

That’s all it took. I wrapped my hands around his flacid dick and rubbed it, I massaged his balls and teased with the skin over his cockhead. It grew hard very quickly. I began stroking it and teasing him while the timer ticked down. He began to sigh softly and smile. I knew just what he wanted.

*beep* *beep* *beep*

Time to post. I fired it off and then turned my attentions to Master. He was hard now and I watched his dick throb up and down. I got up and laid the large subbie pillows I have on the floor and planted my ass on them. It lifts it up nice a high for him to get good leverage and view

He stood there above me, watching me play with my erect nipples, his dick hard and pulsing at me.

“What do you want slut?”

” I want you to fuck me Master, please?”

He came down to my level and his cock found me instantly. Pluging in he impaled himself on me. It felt so good to be filled by him and knowing that he was taking his pleasure. My body accepted him willingly and I became moist almost instantly. He does it to me every time.

We fucked slowly like that for some time, savoring the feeling of him and watching him gaze at me with lust in his eyes. He leaned back and pounded into me then. Fast and steady, the constant rhythm drumming into my pussy.

“Oh God yes, fuck me Master.”

And that he did.

–luna

Master asked for a blowjob tonight in between posts. Instead of willingly doing so I gave him a face and said “no.” He has now requested that I blog about why I said no.

I’m not supposed to say no, I’m supposed to be willing to do anything to please Master whenever he wishes. It’s a part of my personal submissive ethics . I am supposed to be working towards acceptance of all things sexual with Master and yet I still said no. I gave him a lame excuse.

“I’ve been planning this event (blogathon) for months now, you knew that. I don’t want to give you a blowjob, what if I can’t get you off by the time I have to post?”

What kind of excuse is that. I really need to learn my lesson. He looked so hurt and yet didn’t say anything. I think I would have learned faster had he said something about it.

Master I’m sorry. I will work harder at accepting your desires for my sexual use. I have no right to say now to you. You are my world, my Master. I shall worship you with heart, soul and body. Forever.

–luna

I’m chewing gum and chatting in the IRC channel when I can. I’m at a loss of what to write about nearing the end so I will need to rely on complete randomness and horny thoughts to get me through!

–luna

kimee’s Daily Thoughts and Sporadic Nonesense is blogging for The Susan G. Komen Foundation. Go read her thoughts now!

A Tag is like a signature line for forums and emails and stuff. They can be small or large. I had one made special for me and I thought I’d share it. Note, this does not look like me.

This question is very common among people who don’t understand a lot of what BDSM is. BDSM is a huge acronym for Bondage/Discipline/Domination/Submission/Sadism/Masochism. Now that doesnt mean that when you are into BDSM that you are into all of them. The beauty of it is that you can pick and choose what you like and don’t like. In this question, I’m assuming that BDSM means the activities participated in and the Lifestyle as the relationships and outside the bedroom things.

That’s exactly the difference I’m going to talk about. BDSM is the activities that people do. It can be while playing, during sex, in a club or with select people. It is the bondage, SM and roleplay that many people partake in. The Lifestyle is when you take the D/s out of the bedroom as well and involve your daily life with it. It can be ritual and rules, structure and organized order of things.

I am in the Lifestyle because I endeavor to be submissive in all parts of my private life. I also am into BDSM. I love playing with my Master and I shared some of what we like to do in a previous post.

–luna

This is a fantasy. No real play ever happened like this. If you do try this on your own please play safely and with clean partners.

She laid down next to me. She had never touched another woman before and was timid in her first attempts to carress me. I let her explore at her own speed, enjoying the sensations her gentle fingers drew out of me. This was a learning experience I wasn’t going to rush.

“I’m ready, love.” she whispers.

Her body was trembling but I had no doubt that she needed to feel me. My hands went to her breasts and I pressed my thumb and forefinger against her nipple, teasing it to life, feeling it tighten and raise. She gasped and I slid down to her wetness, gripping her mound.

*knock knock*

“Come.”

He entered quietly and removed his clothing. He knew what he was coming in for. He was here for her fantasy fullfilled. He was the stag of this affair. He kneeled at the bed and waited my signal. I continued to caress her, watching her body respond to my touches. She stopped trembling in fear and sighed more, moaning softly behind tightened lips.

My fingers sunk into her pussy, fully enveloped in her and teased her insides, she arched her back to meet me and I looked to him.

“I think our little pet needs some pain to go with this pleasure.”

He smiled and rose from his place by the bed and lay beside her while I continued playing. His lips went down to meet hers, in a hot passionate kiss that took all her attention away from what I was doing. I fingered her harder, my thumb pressing against her clit every now and again. He broke the kiss and licked his way down her chest to her left breast.

I watched as he suck his teeth carefully into the soft flesh, biting and teasing, and bitting harder. She whimpered but did not fight it. I rubbed her clit as he nibbled her harder, firmer, dragging his incisors across her flesh. He’s leaving marks, bring the blood to the surface. The pet is beginning to feel the pleasure in the pain.

He bites her, hard, I can feel her flinch and she cries out, but does not move. First blood. She’s breathing between clenched teeth but her hands have gone to entwine in his hair. She’s rocking against my fingers.

“Yes, pet. Good girl, such a good girl.” I cooe.

We bring her to a powerful orgasm, him biting into her breast, sucking and tasting the coppery red trickle he has brought from her. My fingers deep within her as she spasms and rocks.

Virgin blood. Welcome to the life of a sexual vampire.

–luna

“It’s so hard to find someone in the Lifestyle that I’m compatible with. You are so lucky to have found someone.”

I don’t know how many times I hear this on a daily basis when conversing. It always brings up my view on the whole dating atmosphere within the Lifestyle. Yes, it is hard to find that special partner who will give you what you want and compliment you in every aspect. However, think back to when you were dating in the vanilla realm. Was it just as hard? Some of you will say no, some will say yes. Those of you that say no, why is that you think?

(Why it seems like there are so few perspective partners to choose from is a different issue.)

Here’s what my opinion is on the subject. Vanilla dating seemed so much easier because we were not upfront and forward about what we needed and wanted in a relationship. Most regular dates I went on before finding my Master never included even the type of person I was looking for physically, let alone telling the person what you wanted in bed or out of the relationship as a whole. You just don’t talk about those things on dates until you both decide to try the relationship thing. In vanilla relationships, what you want and need is usually secretive at first, if expressed at all. Is it hard to find a partner in a vanilla world? Hell yes.

The difference with a BDSM or Lifestyle relationship is that we practically introduce ourselves with a checklist and wants and needs list. We come to the date and begin asking those direct questions of: what are you looking for in a Dom/sub? What do you see the ideal relationship being? What do you like to do during scene?

I feel that we approach a Lifestyle date very differently than we would in a vanilla context. Think about it the next time you are out on a new date. What do you talk about, what do you share with this stranger that you met not long ago? Now how would you go on a similar date with someone in a vanilla relationship? Would you be as upfront to them? No, most likely not. Why is that? You don’t want to scare them away, make them think you are a freak? Many other excuses come to mind.

So, you are thinking, if we come to people up front and share what we want and who we are, why is it still so hard to find the one we need in our lives? Simple, compatibility is hard. We are open with people from the start and so we shuffle through perspective people faster than traditional relationship cycles. This makes us feel like we will never find someone that works for us. It brings us down and envious of people that have found someone to be with, even for a time.

How we approach a Lifestyle date vs. a traditional date is what affects the way we find a partner. Some are looking for play partners, and we express that rather immediately with a Lifestyle date; however in a traditional date you wouldn’t say that you were just looking for someone for the sack and not expect to get slapped or called some offensive names. Those of us looking for relationships we sit down for our dates and talk about what we want and need in a relationship, right down to specifics. We get to know what the other person wants and needs, how they act in situations, how they see themselves and who they want to be years down the road. We know what they are like right way and can decide rather quickly if they will be a decent partner or not. A traditional date is superficial. It’s called date talk. Basically its small talk, where neither party really volunteers any sort of information that would be beneficial to learning if that person is compatible. They just want to get out of the date or make it to the next. Traditional dating is a longer process of getting to know one another, opening up and finding out that the person you’ve been seeing for months isn’t compatible with what you are looking for on one level or another.

Dating is dating. It’s not easy and how we approach is affects the outcome. A BDSM relationship is there for everyone. It’s not easy, but neither is a vanilla relationship. Once you adjust your thinking to how we go about dating and the changes in life that the Lifestyle brings upon us you will see that finding a partner is never easy. Once you do find that special one, you will be grateful for all the hard work.